Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What has been the youngest you have been able to date/attract?samspade said:Then date younger women. It's that simple.
Hey that is pretty good.samspade said:You got me beat. When I was 31-32, I dated a 23 year old. So, 8-9 years. This past year I've gone out with an 18 year old and a 23 year old but didn't get anywhere with either. My game is not sharp right now. The 18 year old was a number-close though. She thought I was around 26. I never corrected her. Ha!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've got a dozen years on you and I pretty much feel the same. :yes:WCS14 said:Anybody else feel this way? I guess it is simple male biology...
I only want to date 25 up to 32 tops!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I think I got you all beat; when I was 38 I dated a 19 year old.samspade said:You got me beat. When I was 31-32, I dated a 23 year old. So, 8-9 years. This past year I've gone out with an 18 year old and a 23 year old but didn't get anywhere with either. My game is not sharp right now. The 18 year old was a number-close though. She thought I was around 26. I never corrected her. Ha!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Agree with this. I've found women, at least in my area, who are my age (early to mid 30's) pretty intolerable.Warrior74 said:I find very few women my age physically attractive and the ones that are reside firmly out of my league or have attitudes that make them unattractive. It's usually the latter and not the former.
I find that women in the late 30s early 40s tend to think that a. their accomplishments professionally impresses me. and b. What they want matters to me.
Thanks for linking to thisRollo Tomassi said:This will interest you:
http://therationalmale.com/2011/11/11/the-mature-man/
It breaks down the younger woman older man relation.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.