You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What has been the youngest you have been able to date/attract?samspade said:Then date younger women. It's that simple.
Hey that is pretty good.samspade said:You got me beat. When I was 31-32, I dated a 23 year old. So, 8-9 years. This past year I've gone out with an 18 year old and a 23 year old but didn't get anywhere with either. My game is not sharp right now. The 18 year old was a number-close though. She thought I was around 26. I never corrected her. Ha!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I've got a dozen years on you and I pretty much feel the same. :yes:WCS14 said:Anybody else feel this way? I guess it is simple male biology...
I only want to date 25 up to 32 tops!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I think I got you all beat; when I was 38 I dated a 19 year old.samspade said:You got me beat. When I was 31-32, I dated a 23 year old. So, 8-9 years. This past year I've gone out with an 18 year old and a 23 year old but didn't get anywhere with either. My game is not sharp right now. The 18 year old was a number-close though. She thought I was around 26. I never corrected her. Ha!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Agree with this. I've found women, at least in my area, who are my age (early to mid 30's) pretty intolerable.Warrior74 said:I find very few women my age physically attractive and the ones that are reside firmly out of my league or have attitudes that make them unattractive. It's usually the latter and not the former.
I find that women in the late 30s early 40s tend to think that a. their accomplishments professionally impresses me. and b. What they want matters to me.
Thanks for linking to thisRollo Tomassi said:This will interest you:
http://therationalmale.com/2011/11/11/the-mature-man/
It breaks down the younger woman older man relation.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.