She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What has been the youngest you have been able to date/attract?samspade said:Then date younger women. It's that simple.
Hey that is pretty good.samspade said:You got me beat. When I was 31-32, I dated a 23 year old. So, 8-9 years. This past year I've gone out with an 18 year old and a 23 year old but didn't get anywhere with either. My game is not sharp right now. The 18 year old was a number-close though. She thought I was around 26. I never corrected her. Ha!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've got a dozen years on you and I pretty much feel the same. :yes:WCS14 said:Anybody else feel this way? I guess it is simple male biology...
I only want to date 25 up to 32 tops!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think I got you all beat; when I was 38 I dated a 19 year old.samspade said:You got me beat. When I was 31-32, I dated a 23 year old. So, 8-9 years. This past year I've gone out with an 18 year old and a 23 year old but didn't get anywhere with either. My game is not sharp right now. The 18 year old was a number-close though. She thought I was around 26. I never corrected her. Ha!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Agree with this. I've found women, at least in my area, who are my age (early to mid 30's) pretty intolerable.Warrior74 said:I find very few women my age physically attractive and the ones that are reside firmly out of my league or have attitudes that make them unattractive. It's usually the latter and not the former.
I find that women in the late 30s early 40s tend to think that a. their accomplishments professionally impresses me. and b. What they want matters to me.
Thanks for linking to thisRollo Tomassi said:This will interest you:
http://therationalmale.com/2011/11/11/the-mature-man/
It breaks down the younger woman older man relation.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.