Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Not again! ...

European-DJ

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Back in the days I made two topica about the same hb5 girl, with a 10 personality (search my username and you will find the post's). Back then I decided to cut all contact with the girl, because i was getting nowhere with her; kisses, and that was all - some of you might wonder why I even wanted to date a 5'er, but I am tired of everyone 8,5+, trust me I have has my share, the prettier the girl, the more fvcked up she is!

After 6 months of no contact, she decides to write me again - once against I fell into the trap of talking to her! We agrees to stay friends, even though I knew I wanted more, but this time I wasn't going to show it.
So as the meeting escalated, and it was getting late, she started wanting to kiss me - at first I was like 'friends only', but then I slipped.
When the movie ended, and after a lot of last minute resistance, I managed to fvck her; and this is when I really though I had won..

But what happens next? After an extraordinarily nice night, and a great morning and great texting throughout the day, she suddenly turned 180 at me!!

I have no clue what I did wrong, what happened, but after going through our conversation I assume I was too available, might even have been expressing neediness/desperation.
One of my girlfriends agree that I came on too strong, the other one thinks the hb5 is a nice girl, and wouldn't want to brake my heart with the real reason for 'dumping me', which she assumes - and assures me - was due to bad sex.
Now I am going NC with this girl, even though she will always be my one-itis due to her personality and standards! ...

Do any of you have any similar experience? What did you do, what was the reason for the 180? And what was your solution/action
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kbomb

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Dude, you reek of desperation. Just let it go, you are panicking because you have no viable options with personality. Its just a challenge to up your own personality improvement.
 

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The worst thing is, you are right!

I am so uncontrollably desperate towards this girl, because of one thing, and one thing only; the girls I have as backups, the plates I am spinning and so forth are all WITHOUT/with bad personalities - it is unbearable.

Just wanted to get some opinions and different views on the problem.

But thanks for answering - appreciated!
 

Bokanovsky

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European-DJ said:
some of you might wonder why I even wanted to date a 5'er, but I am tired of everyone 8,5+, trust me I have has my share, the prettier the girl, the more fvcked up she is!
For the record, you are not fooling anyone!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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