"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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European-DJ

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Back in the days I made two topica about the same hb5 girl, with a 10 personality (search my username and you will find the post's). Back then I decided to cut all contact with the girl, because i was getting nowhere with her; kisses, and that was all - some of you might wonder why I even wanted to date a 5'er, but I am tired of everyone 8,5+, trust me I have has my share, the prettier the girl, the more fvcked up she is!

After 6 months of no contact, she decides to write me again - once against I fell into the trap of talking to her! We agrees to stay friends, even though I knew I wanted more, but this time I wasn't going to show it.
So as the meeting escalated, and it was getting late, she started wanting to kiss me - at first I was like 'friends only', but then I slipped.
When the movie ended, and after a lot of last minute resistance, I managed to fvck her; and this is when I really though I had won..

But what happens next? After an extraordinarily nice night, and a great morning and great texting throughout the day, she suddenly turned 180 at me!!

I have no clue what I did wrong, what happened, but after going through our conversation I assume I was too available, might even have been expressing neediness/desperation.
One of my girlfriends agree that I came on too strong, the other one thinks the hb5 is a nice girl, and wouldn't want to brake my heart with the real reason for 'dumping me', which she assumes - and assures me - was due to bad sex.
Now I am going NC with this girl, even though she will always be my one-itis due to her personality and standards! ...

Do any of you have any similar experience? What did you do, what was the reason for the 180? And what was your solution/action
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dude, you reek of desperation. Just let it go, you are panicking because you have no viable options with personality. Its just a challenge to up your own personality improvement.
 

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The worst thing is, you are right!

I am so uncontrollably desperate towards this girl, because of one thing, and one thing only; the girls I have as backups, the plates I am spinning and so forth are all WITHOUT/with bad personalities - it is unbearable.

Just wanted to get some opinions and different views on the problem.

But thanks for answering - appreciated!
 

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European-DJ said:
some of you might wonder why I even wanted to date a 5'er, but I am tired of everyone 8,5+, trust me I have has my share, the prettier the girl, the more fvcked up she is!
For the record, you are not fooling anyone!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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