"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not again! ...

European-DJ

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Back in the days I made two topica about the same hb5 girl, with a 10 personality (search my username and you will find the post's). Back then I decided to cut all contact with the girl, because i was getting nowhere with her; kisses, and that was all - some of you might wonder why I even wanted to date a 5'er, but I am tired of everyone 8,5+, trust me I have has my share, the prettier the girl, the more fvcked up she is!

After 6 months of no contact, she decides to write me again - once against I fell into the trap of talking to her! We agrees to stay friends, even though I knew I wanted more, but this time I wasn't going to show it.
So as the meeting escalated, and it was getting late, she started wanting to kiss me - at first I was like 'friends only', but then I slipped.
When the movie ended, and after a lot of last minute resistance, I managed to fvck her; and this is when I really though I had won..

But what happens next? After an extraordinarily nice night, and a great morning and great texting throughout the day, she suddenly turned 180 at me!!

I have no clue what I did wrong, what happened, but after going through our conversation I assume I was too available, might even have been expressing neediness/desperation.
One of my girlfriends agree that I came on too strong, the other one thinks the hb5 is a nice girl, and wouldn't want to brake my heart with the real reason for 'dumping me', which she assumes - and assures me - was due to bad sex.
Now I am going NC with this girl, even though she will always be my one-itis due to her personality and standards! ...

Do any of you have any similar experience? What did you do, what was the reason for the 180? And what was your solution/action
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude, you reek of desperation. Just let it go, you are panicking because you have no viable options with personality. Its just a challenge to up your own personality improvement.
 

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The worst thing is, you are right!

I am so uncontrollably desperate towards this girl, because of one thing, and one thing only; the girls I have as backups, the plates I am spinning and so forth are all WITHOUT/with bad personalities - it is unbearable.

Just wanted to get some opinions and different views on the problem.

But thanks for answering - appreciated!
 

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European-DJ said:
some of you might wonder why I even wanted to date a 5'er, but I am tired of everyone 8,5+, trust me I have has my share, the prettier the girl, the more fvcked up she is!
For the record, you are not fooling anyone!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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