"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Not able to continue going to the gym

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I have enormous pain in my trapezoids, so much that it causes frequent migraine attacks.

I've been going to many doctors, chiropractors,... and the only solution besides some ergonomic adjustments is to stop going to the gym which does work as when I don't go for 1-2 weeks, it's much much less.

This is a huge blow. As you can read from my history threads, I lack social skills and confidence. Going to the gym and get buff always felt as my 'golden ticket'. But for the sake of my health and my job (frequent migraine attacks is a big no-no), I have to quit going to the gym.

Going running and cardio is no problem as it puts no strain on it, but I'll never look as I wanted to look which, again, is another hit to my confidence.

Sigh
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why? I've had numerous injuries to various body types, you simply train around them. Work legs, work abs, work obliques.
 

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Why? I've had numerous injuries to various body types, you simply train around them. Work legs, work abs, work obliques.
Nice sight, great legs and abs, but no upper body... Look sorry, but I just can't work around this, if I keep training it will only get worse, even with other exercises that would train those areas.
 

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Take a break from lifting and do yoga for a few weeks. It will help you gain some alignment, flexibility and balance. In addition it help you get centered and does reduce stress. It helped me more than you can imagine recovering for injuries received in a roadside bomb attack. I had recurring migraines and head-aches for years after than until I started taking yoga classes a year ago, and it's been great. Not only are the headaches gone, but those classes are 90% women, which is a nice serendipitous side-benefit.
 

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Nice sight, great legs and abs, but no upper body... Look sorry, but I just can't work around this, if I keep training it will only get worse, even with other exercises that would train those areas.
I just find that to be an excuse. There would be no logical explanation as to why your traps would hurt if you did a leg press or leg extension or hamstring curl, etc. something is better than nothing, but do as you wish.

You could also look into Pilates and yoga, as well as foundation training which are all non weighted workouts.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It is indeed better, I agree with that. But it's like people skipping leg day, you see that and it looks ridiculous, in my case it would be the other way around...
 

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Go to any vitamin shop and purchase ginger root pills and feverfew pills. Take 1500mg of each daily. After 30 days of doing this, go back to working out. Let me know how it works for you.
 

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It is indeed better, I agree with that. But it's like people skipping leg day, you see that and it looks ridiculous, in my case it would be the other way around...
People rarely notice legs, even when muscular. I have some of the most jacked legs you'll ever see but unless I'm wearing shorts and they see my calves nobody ever notices them. Partially because I have to wear pants a size too big otherwise the seams tear.
 

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It's a shame you can't go to the gym anymore. But at the very least you have developed your body a decent amount, and probably look better than the average guy.

You'll eventually get back in the gym so don't worry. In the meantime don't see your injury as a burden, see it as a blessing, here's how.

You are now in a situation where you have no choice but to develop your social skills and confidence. You can't rely on the gym anymore as you mentioned, and that's a good thing. You can come out of this with better social skills and confidence, if you have the mindset and courage to improve your weaknesses. Your future self will thank you I'm sure.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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nope he still can, he just need to work aorund waht is against him, talking with a personal trainer to develop a train set for him would be helpfull, other way around that, pillates are nice, take some swimming class, even yoga works, just don't stop the exercise for excuses
 

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I second marmel75 in Foundation Training, really good thing. Try Swimming with foundation training and yoga. Should be real good man.
 

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You can get an amazing body with bodyweight exercise. Yoga, swimming and calisthenics.
Women don't like "jacked" guys anyway. My boy Von is Jacked.
He's 5'8, 250 of solid muscle. If you watch wwe he's like ryback but black.

Chicks do not dig him. They say he's just too freakishly muscular.
So if women are your concern, this won't effect your results.
 

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Go to any vitamin shop and purchase ginger root pills and feverfew pills. Take 1500mg of each daily. After 30 days of doing this, go back to working out. Let me know how it works for you.
Wanted to make sure you paid attention to this.

Since I was 15 I've had cluster migraines. I don't know how bad yours are, mine are supposed to be the worst. I still workout and have a successful career.

The two pills I've suggested are harmless but are very effective for what you're describing.

For about $12 and 30 days it's worth trying.
 
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