She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Whether overseas or at home, you just don't seem like the kind of person that anyone would want to spend time with.gspshields2 said:We can't really dispute the fact that girls overseas are a lot easier to impress than here.
Why go the hard route of staying in North America?
Thats like saying I want a challenge, the hardest challenge I can get, or do I want the easy route? Most people avoid difficulty and look for easy way.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mantis Toboggan said:Whether overseas or at home, you just don't seem like the kind of person that anyone would want to spend time with.
If I were Naughty Ninja, who dedicated serious time to helping you out, I'd request to get your whiney azz banned.
Look at threads you've created in your time here: Nothing but whiney, crybaby, trollishness
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1716670
gspshields2 said:Why get banned? Im not a being a troll.
I asked for advice,
I followed it and I am posting the follow up reports,
so far, it's not working out for me.
Is that reason to ban me?
gspshields2 said:We can't really dispute the fact that girls overseas are a lot easier to impress than here.
Why go the hard route of staying in North America?
Thats like saying I want a challenge, the hardest challenge I can get, or do I want the easy route? Most people avoid difficulty and look for easy way.
Mantis Toboggan said:Whether overseas or at home, you just don't seem like the kind of person that anyone would want to spend time with.
If I were Naughty Ninja, who dedicated serious time to helping you out, I'd request to get your whiney azz banned.
Look at threads you've created in your time here: Nothing but whiney, crybaby, trollishness
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=1716670
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.