narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 7. first week done
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NoFap September 2017
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 8
Michael Corleone.
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resilient
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What's up DJs?
I made it to day25 before a reset (w/o porn). Almost 30 days, homies.
At least five good things from this month experiment:
1) I didn't look at any porn - zip, zilch, nada
2) I was more visible, active, and social
3) I got a few #s and social media contacts (w/o approaching heavily...)
4) I felt more relaxed, comfortable and confident in my own skin (fewer nerves, approach anxiety)
5) Experienced IDGAF vibe more often
For me, I'm getting closer to achieving the goal I envisioned for NoFap all along these past few months: quit porn. I haven't looked at it as heavily when I was a teenager in recent years, yet it has still been my crutch when I felt low or lonely.
Last year as I mentioned in my OP, I was successful at giving up porn and acquiring a fwb for a while.
I want to quit porn forever, so I can objectively look at potential relationships from a healthier perspective.
I made it to day25 before a reset (w/o porn). Almost 30 days, homies.
At least five good things from this month experiment:
1) I didn't look at any porn - zip, zilch, nada
2) I was more visible, active, and social
3) I got a few #s and social media contacts (w/o approaching heavily...)
4) I felt more relaxed, comfortable and confident in my own skin (fewer nerves, approach anxiety)
5) Experienced IDGAF vibe more often
For me, I'm getting closer to achieving the goal I envisioned for NoFap all along these past few months: quit porn. I haven't looked at it as heavily when I was a teenager in recent years, yet it has still been my crutch when I felt low or lonely.
Last year as I mentioned in my OP, I was successful at giving up porn and acquiring a fwb for a while.
I want to quit porn forever, so I can objectively look at potential relationships from a healthier perspective.
PeasantPlayer
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If I go no fap I'll nut in 10 seconds
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Day 2, i'm 100% in.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
Been EXTREMELY sick for the past 8 days.
In and out of hospital getting intravenous antibiotics.
no energy to fap at all.
DAY 15.
In and out of hospital getting intravenous antibiotics.
no energy to fap at all.
DAY 15.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 16
narcissist
Master Don Juan
day 18
almost gave in today.
almost gave in today.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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day5
Looks like a new month, djs.
I had and interesting body language/signals experience after church today.
I spotted a girl I met recently a few weeks back. I waved her over. Met her in the middle. Her body language was antsy/nervous, she swayed side to side, had difficulty keeping eye contact with me and looked to the left when talking.
I turned my body parallel to hers so she would feel less nervous. I tried to keep the convo short because I wanted to get home for lunch. She told me to wait as she noticed I was thinking of leaving.
Anyway, got the # close and set up a date for later this week. She asked what I was doing later today and I said I might hit some place up and she invited me to an event later this month. Cool.
While I was talking to her, an attractive woman in a dress with her husband who was carrying their new baby walked past me. The woman totally eye balled me hard in a sustained look as she passed. That rarely happens. I wonder if she eyeballed me because I was talking to this girl in set. If the girl I was talking to wasn't there, would she still have checked me out?
Interesting stuff
NoFap rocks. I probably would been nervous too if I was fapping. Lmao.
Looks like a new month, djs.
I had and interesting body language/signals experience after church today.
I spotted a girl I met recently a few weeks back. I waved her over. Met her in the middle. Her body language was antsy/nervous, she swayed side to side, had difficulty keeping eye contact with me and looked to the left when talking.
I turned my body parallel to hers so she would feel less nervous. I tried to keep the convo short because I wanted to get home for lunch. She told me to wait as she noticed I was thinking of leaving.
Anyway, got the # close and set up a date for later this week. She asked what I was doing later today and I said I might hit some place up and she invited me to an event later this month. Cool.
While I was talking to her, an attractive woman in a dress with her husband who was carrying their new baby walked past me. The woman totally eye balled me hard in a sustained look as she passed. That rarely happens. I wonder if she eyeballed me because I was talking to this girl in set. If the girl I was talking to wasn't there, would she still have checked me out?
Interesting stuff
NoFap rocks. I probably would been nervous too if I was fapping. Lmao.
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ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Hitting on girls at church? No wonder that woman 'eye-balled' you.
MatureDJ
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And your body did use your slumber to clean the pipes in that period of time?
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
DAY 6 Going to plate tonight to fvck her hard.
So suave bros before hoes.
So suave bros before hoes.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.