NoFap September 2017

[resilient]

@narcissist hasn't started this so to honor my DJ brothers that need/want help in this department, I'll start this thread. This is sort of an experimental/field test thread for me to confirm my success from last year. I'll explain.

Last summer around late July early August, I decided to give up fapping 2-3x/week and most of all, porn. August 2017 had been almost exactly a year ago that my ex-wife separated after seven years married. I started going out more socially, work on getting back into shape with HIIT training.

After making the nofap/noporn decision, I got my first fb that I enjoyed for a month after a year since the separation. It was sexual healing I needed after my ex-wife turned me down year after year. Ultimately this new chick branch swung since I was rusty at game after being absent for nearly a decade and she was eight years younger than I.

I've had zero plates this summer while I've worked hard on myself in the gym, nutrition, school, and the guitar.

I landed one plate but that fell through quickly after I wasn't aggressive enough at making any closes. Tbh, I'm still working on self-esteem to make riskier cold approaches, yet I still would like try.

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." ~Wayne Gretzky

I've temporarily killed the "thirst" however, I recognize a huge chunk of that is ego-protection.

Time to go for some rejection. For me, that starts with being disciplined in nofap.

P.S. I'm on day9 already

Who else is in?

 

[TheGambino]

I cant do iT even though i got enough plates to burn. I love to Jack to anal sluts

 

[RichardTheFrog]

**** that.

I'm going No Shower September 2017.

It's tough because once you get itchy, you start scratching and it can get infected with all the dirt and bacteria on you.

 

[resilient]

I'm going No Shower September 2017.

Ok. Good luck with that.

 

[narcissist]

I am in 100%

Starting day 1 tomorrow.

It's crazy after I broke my 60 day streak it's really hard to get back on the challenge.

I am dedicated in my mind and soul.

Good luck brothers.

 

[switch7]

I'm in. On 7 days so far.

 

[The Duke]

I've made it 15minutes. That's a new personal record!

 

[resilient]

day14

I went to a concert last night. Before arriving at the venue, I parked my car and got in an elevator with exactly three other women all dolled up, dresses, nice heels, nice hair, and purses. They were confused as to which floor to get off. My normal shy self would have just remained silent in my corner and let them figure it out. I leaned in closer, gave each of them eye contact and said "Hey, which floor are you, ladies, looking for?" (with a slight smile/grin). They looked relieved and one of them told me a response so I helped them out. It was a good confidence booster for me.

The interaction helped me and now am on the look out for more situational opening when I'm out running errands, etc. I know it's simple for the guys that approach all the time, yet, simple interactions with some intent could lead to future plate opportunities.

Saying something is always a win rather than keeping quiet out of fear of rejection.

 

[narcissist]

Today I manned up and started my new 100 days 100 sets challenge.

Just like nofap once you go a very long streak, and then the streak ends it is hard to get back into it!

But I have to just take it one day at a time.

I went downtown and forced myself to do 10 approaches.

I ended up doing 11 approaches, got 5 numbers, and got 1 really good number with a date for Sunday.

I don't care right now if I get numbers or dates. All that I give a sh1t about is consistently approaching. I need to hop back on both nofap and cold approaching. Those two things, when done consistently are extremely beneficial for my own life.

So here is to day 1 for 100 days 100 sets, and here is to day 1 of nofap.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

How many days you happen to go for - the measurement of abstinence, the quantification - is secondary to the 'quality' of your inner state. You are wanting to get to the point where your rational desire is well and truly in control of your natural desires. This is no clenched-fist repression, but rather the taming of a beast which you will harness to your purposes. The Kraken shall be released on your command.

What is of primary importance is the building of an inner strength and resiliency, so that when the urge comes it will feel like an afternoon breeze, as opposed to a hurricane to which you must capitulate. No doubt the recovering addict will capitulate from time to time, as he is by definition compelled to. But rather than despair, he will count as progress the lessening frequency of those capitulations.

 

[resilient]

The Kraken shall be released on your command.

RELEASE THE KRAKEN!

day15 hommies...

Going to a weekend camp with 125-175 peeps my age tomorrow night. (No internet access for three days helps my resolve.)

I will def. make some approaches.

- Eye contact needs to be keen.
- Posture in check.
- Body language ready to rock those sets!

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I'm in for the rest of September.

 

[narcissist]

day 2

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Saying something is always a win rather than keeping quiet out of fear of rejection.

Agreed entirely. Other evening at the sports centre I needed to break a 20note, so I asked at reception. I'd noticed the receptionist staring at me as I'd walked in. She was pretty solid bleach blonde, green eyes 8/10, with some Euro accent or other. Could be Nordic or similar. All I did was ask her how it's going instead of directly just asking for the change. She reciprocated and you know when a chick is delighted to even be speaking to you. She's all smiley and apologetic for not having any change for me. Should have just asked for the number by way of compensation.

It's crazy after I broke my 60 day streak it's really hard to get back on the challenge.

Also agreed on this. Initially thought I'd just try to go for a new PB to the end of the month. But fck it. Let's try end of October as a minimum. Need to spend as little time in my room as possible.

Day 5. Definitely getting more IOIs again even after the short time.

 

[sosousage]

i think you guys didnt watch wolf from wall street.

 

[narcissist]

day 3

 

[MrJack]

Day 18 (started Aug 30)

Feel better mentally but still highly attracted to pr0n at the moment.

Couple years ago I had a 78 day streak and just by a girl touching my thigh for a microsecond I got a hard on lol.

I'm down for fapping a couple times a month after a 90 day period of abstinence, but definitely NO PR0N FOR LIFE

 

[narcissist]

day 6

 

[TheGambino]

I cant fvckinn do iT. Kudos to You Guys. Im addicted to Colombilian anal p0rn

 

[resilient]

day19

The weekend camp was good. I made several approaches I lost count. The situational opening opportunities made it easier to drop a line / flirt / kino and see where the conversation goes because it's convenient and defenses were down.

Two girls came up to me and asked for my number, that never happens, lol.

The few # closes I didn't get, I hit up on social media after the weekend.

Tbh, although the weekend was fun socially all-around, my confidence took a slight "hit" when an ex-plate from this summer was included in my small group. I tried blocking that out of my head, yet somehow still felt like my frame took a hit because of the awkward friend zoning that happened (shame/guilt/internalized embarrassment from the soft-next from her).