"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nofap November Challenge (chest beaters stay away thanks)

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fvck. I'm in.

The longest I have gone is 16 days.

You guys really need to motivate me and help me through it.

No porn either for me. I know that after 6-7 days, if I watch porn, I'll give in.

I will however still be fvcking my girl. So for me, s3x is aloud.

Good luck. Day 1.
 

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Fvck. I'm in.

The longest I have gone is 16 days.

You guys really need to motivate me and help me through it.

No porn either for me. I know that after 6-7 days, if I watch porn, I'll give in.

I will however still be fvcking my girl. So for me, s3x is aloud.

Good luck. Day 1.
Sex is fine. Some of the men need to be re-trained so that sex is their only allowable outlet. Reward SUCCESS!
 

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Yeah I'm doing no porn 2. Let's all encourage each other. 30 days shouldn't be difficult
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I used to really commit to long periods of no fap and I definitely noticed it helped me act more natural/confident around girls.

Felt like my **** and brain were perfectly synced together, if that makes sense. Thinking about it, the same thing happens when I get really hungry too. All self consciousness fades away and I speak freely and confidently.

I know the science always gives mixed results but personally I think it works. It doesn't make any sense to refrain from sex in hopes of seeing the same results though.
 

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I'm in.
 

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I used to really commit to long periods of no fap and I definitely noticed it helped me act more natural/confident around girls.

Felt like my **** and brain were perfectly synced together, if that makes sense. Thinking about it, the same thing happens when I get really hungry too. All self consciousness fades away and I speak freely and confidently.

I know the science always gives mixed results but personally I think it works. It doesn't make any sense to refrain from sex in hopes of seeing the same results though.
Yes. Have SEX. But do not have SEX with yourself! SEX with a female is a REWARD for positive and successful behavior.
 

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This should go without saying for men who take pride in themselves. Amazing how far we have come.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Some things to be aware of (from someone with some experience with nofap)

First couple of days are usually easy

Days 4-10 are usually the hardest (for me anyway)

Day 11 testosterone levels peak and you should feel it.

Also at times you may feel depressed, anxious, tired and you **** may even feel dead. Thus is NORMAL. Do not panic, most guys fail at this stage and go back to fapping out of fear.

This stage is actually withdrawel from porn addiction so if this happens it's a good thing, this is a clear sign that porn and fapping has actually done some neurological damage which you probably aren't even aware of, and you can expect some major benefits if you can push through.

Good luck everyone.
 

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Some things to be aware of (from someone with some experience with nofap)

First couple of days are usually easy

Days 4-10 are usually the hardest (for me anyway)

Day 11 testosterone levels peak and you should feel it.

Also at times you may feel depressed, anxious, tired and you **** may even feel dead. Thus is NORMAL. Do not panic, most guys fail at this stage and go back to fapping out of fear.

This stage is actually withdrawel from porn addiction so if this happens it's a good thing, this is a clear sign that porn and fapping has actually done some neurological damage which you probably aren't even aware of, and you can expect some major benefits if you can push through.

Good luck everyone.
ive seen blood work from people on no fap, the amount of free test seems to be an average of about 3-4 points, which is not noticeable. Sadly, it is placebo. What you are feeling is not a build up of testosterone, hormones do not work that way, you can only build as much as the negative feedback system will let you. What you are feeling is vitality, from not blowing your wad every day to a computer screen.

anyway, i'm still on day 20+, I lost count , but don't feel like jerking it to porn.

What I have noticed is motivation is somewhat increased, but I never had an issue there. Girls open me up more, which I do not know why, nothing has changed except this. It may be something subtle I was doing before that is gone now, possibly due to no fap. You feel more aggressive and assertive with women.
 

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I see these thread come up here once a month or so. I'm quite surprised its such an issue for some.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's been awhile since I've given it a serious try.

I'm in!

Porn is easy to not look at for me. It's GoneWild that's a bit more of a challenge.
 

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I am also in... from tomorow on till 31.01.2017. Did it last year for 100 Days. It was awesome. Superpowers, till you relapse...


THE FIRST RULE OF NOFAP: Your bedroom is for sleeping only. You will wake up, leave, and comeback to sleep. Nothing more.
 

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I'm in.

Already 6 days without faping and i feel fantastic. I'll post every 3-4 days and type any differences i notice.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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