"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Nofap November Challenge (chest beaters stay away thanks)

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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narcissist

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Fvck. I'm in.

The longest I have gone is 16 days.

You guys really need to motivate me and help me through it.

No porn either for me. I know that after 6-7 days, if I watch porn, I'll give in.

I will however still be fvcking my girl. So for me, s3x is aloud.

Good luck. Day 1.
 

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Fvck. I'm in.

The longest I have gone is 16 days.

You guys really need to motivate me and help me through it.

No porn either for me. I know that after 6-7 days, if I watch porn, I'll give in.

I will however still be fvcking my girl. So for me, s3x is aloud.

Good luck. Day 1.
Sex is fine. Some of the men need to be re-trained so that sex is their only allowable outlet. Reward SUCCESS!
 

Infern0

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Yeah I'm doing no porn 2. Let's all encourage each other. 30 days shouldn't be difficult
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I used to really commit to long periods of no fap and I definitely noticed it helped me act more natural/confident around girls.

Felt like my **** and brain were perfectly synced together, if that makes sense. Thinking about it, the same thing happens when I get really hungry too. All self consciousness fades away and I speak freely and confidently.

I know the science always gives mixed results but personally I think it works. It doesn't make any sense to refrain from sex in hopes of seeing the same results though.
 

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I'm in.
 

mrgoodstuff

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I used to really commit to long periods of no fap and I definitely noticed it helped me act more natural/confident around girls.

Felt like my **** and brain were perfectly synced together, if that makes sense. Thinking about it, the same thing happens when I get really hungry too. All self consciousness fades away and I speak freely and confidently.

I know the science always gives mixed results but personally I think it works. It doesn't make any sense to refrain from sex in hopes of seeing the same results though.
Yes. Have SEX. But do not have SEX with yourself! SEX with a female is a REWARD for positive and successful behavior.
 

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This should go without saying for men who take pride in themselves. Amazing how far we have come.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Infern0

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Some things to be aware of (from someone with some experience with nofap)

First couple of days are usually easy

Days 4-10 are usually the hardest (for me anyway)

Day 11 testosterone levels peak and you should feel it.

Also at times you may feel depressed, anxious, tired and you **** may even feel dead. Thus is NORMAL. Do not panic, most guys fail at this stage and go back to fapping out of fear.

This stage is actually withdrawel from porn addiction so if this happens it's a good thing, this is a clear sign that porn and fapping has actually done some neurological damage which you probably aren't even aware of, and you can expect some major benefits if you can push through.

Good luck everyone.
 

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Some things to be aware of (from someone with some experience with nofap)

First couple of days are usually easy

Days 4-10 are usually the hardest (for me anyway)

Day 11 testosterone levels peak and you should feel it.

Also at times you may feel depressed, anxious, tired and you **** may even feel dead. Thus is NORMAL. Do not panic, most guys fail at this stage and go back to fapping out of fear.

This stage is actually withdrawel from porn addiction so if this happens it's a good thing, this is a clear sign that porn and fapping has actually done some neurological damage which you probably aren't even aware of, and you can expect some major benefits if you can push through.

Good luck everyone.
ive seen blood work from people on no fap, the amount of free test seems to be an average of about 3-4 points, which is not noticeable. Sadly, it is placebo. What you are feeling is not a build up of testosterone, hormones do not work that way, you can only build as much as the negative feedback system will let you. What you are feeling is vitality, from not blowing your wad every day to a computer screen.

anyway, i'm still on day 20+, I lost count , but don't feel like jerking it to porn.

What I have noticed is motivation is somewhat increased, but I never had an issue there. Girls open me up more, which I do not know why, nothing has changed except this. It may be something subtle I was doing before that is gone now, possibly due to no fap. You feel more aggressive and assertive with women.
 

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I see these thread come up here once a month or so. I'm quite surprised its such an issue for some.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hockeyfreak79

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It's been awhile since I've given it a serious try.

I'm in!

Porn is easy to not look at for me. It's GoneWild that's a bit more of a challenge.
 

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I am also in... from tomorow on till 31.01.2017. Did it last year for 100 Days. It was awesome. Superpowers, till you relapse...


THE FIRST RULE OF NOFAP: Your bedroom is for sleeping only. You will wake up, leave, and comeback to sleep. Nothing more.
 

NSX-R

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I'm in.

Already 6 days without faping and i feel fantastic. I'll post every 3-4 days and type any differences i notice.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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