"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nofap November Challenge (chest beaters stay away thanks)
- Thread starter Infern0
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
No porn too... I'm signing on.
narcissist
Master Don Juan
The longest I have gone is 16 days.
You guys really need to motivate me and help me through it.
No porn either for me. I know that after 6-7 days, if I watch porn, I'll give in.
I will however still be fvcking my girl. So for me, s3x is aloud.
Good luck. Day 1.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Sex is fine. Some of the men need to be re-trained so that sex is their only allowable outlet. Reward SUCCESS!
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Felt like my **** and brain were perfectly synced together, if that makes sense. Thinking about it, the same thing happens when I get really hungry too. All self consciousness fades away and I speak freely and confidently.
I know the science always gives mixed results but personally I think it works. It doesn't make any sense to refrain from sex in hopes of seeing the same results though.
Floydispink01
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mrgoodstuff
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Yes. Have SEX. But do not have SEX with yourself! SEX with a female is a REWARD for positive and successful behavior.
ChristopherColumbus
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Mike32ct
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Floydispink01
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Good pun.
CuddleJunkie
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Infern0
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First couple of days are usually easy
Days 4-10 are usually the hardest (for me anyway)
Day 11 testosterone levels peak and you should feel it.
Also at times you may feel depressed, anxious, tired and you **** may even feel dead. Thus is NORMAL. Do not panic, most guys fail at this stage and go back to fapping out of fear.
This stage is actually withdrawel from porn addiction so if this happens it's a good thing, this is a clear sign that porn and fapping has actually done some neurological damage which you probably aren't even aware of, and you can expect some major benefits if you can push through.
Good luck everyone.
JohnChops
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ive seen blood work from people on no fap, the amount of free test seems to be an average of about 3-4 points, which is not noticeable. Sadly, it is placebo. What you are feeling is not a build up of testosterone, hormones do not work that way, you can only build as much as the negative feedback system will let you. What you are feeling is vitality, from not blowing your wad every day to a computer screen.
anyway, i'm still on day 20+, I lost count , but don't feel like jerking it to porn.
What I have noticed is motivation is somewhat increased, but I never had an issue there. Girls open me up more, which I do not know why, nothing has changed except this. It may be something subtle I was doing before that is gone now, possibly due to no fap. You feel more aggressive and assertive with women.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Bible_Belt
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I start to get a few zits when I don't get off for 4-5 days or so.
hockeyfreak79
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I'm in!
Porn is easy to not look at for me. It's GoneWild that's a bit more of a challenge.
Emotionist
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THE FIRST RULE OF NOFAP: Your bedroom is for sleeping only. You will wake up, leave, and comeback to sleep. Nothing more.
NSX-R
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Already 6 days without faping and i feel fantastic. I'll post every 3-4 days and type any differences i notice.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.