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At first I was like...Day 10. I'm going 365 days
Then I was like...
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
At first I was like...Day 10. I'm going 365 days
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Roll call: who's still in? @skinnyguy, @Toni (from my other thread), @finality, @narcissist
Day12 complete.
Process is going well. I'm more relaxed. I don't look LTR hungry/thirsty as I was over a month ago. I still notice that I'm revealing too much backstory about personal matters in set, so I want to curb that down pat and talk less when I'm nervous (if any DJs (maybe @deesade) have any tips with that in approaching a set and handling nerves/talking less I would appreciate any input). I want to be confident enough to be quiet and give the other person the chance to talk more about themselves.
I'm generally more upbeat... higher energy in set. I make sure to befriend obstacles and include them in the interaction. I like this part because they almost have a confused look on their faces when I re-engage them and include them in the set. They hesitate to respond, which is an interesting observation (makes me wonder what they're thinking, though I'm trying not to care about that either...).
My eye contact has been improving. I pick up on more subtle social cues and body language that I typically missed before.
I have one chica that initiates texts with a question for my input often from one of my social spheres. She seems like the shy/introverted type which would be a first for me in a while since I typically attract the dominant/aggressive types (I wonder if this is frame balance...or...representative of improvement...::head scratch::...hmm...).![]()
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude....I want to quit being jealous of people with things that I don't and brewing about it all day. What would I cultivate for that?
Yo. What happened with that GF you had?Also I got 7 numbers this week, and did about 15-20 approaches. But I have to jack that number way up. But I feel mad motivated to get pvssy--because it is my only way to release.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I broke up with her like 2 weeks ago. She was a great girlfriend, no arguments or complaining or anything like that, I just wasn't really feeling it anymore. The spark was gone for me.Yo. What happened with that GF you had?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Great! I honestly dont know what my record is but I know I have done 14 days before and now its 17 so it might be for me too. The amazing thing about making it this far is that I dont think much about masturbating anymore, I only think about fuking. Its like my mind has gone back to default.Day 17 boys! I have officially beat my all time record for NoFap!!!! Fvck yes. And I have a date tonight with a gorgeous asian who figure skates (most delicious a$$ I have seen on an asian bean)!!! today is great gentlemen.
Just shaved my pubs and balls. It feels great, but for some reason I always get more h0rny when i shave em bare. I am ready as fvck to see this asian hottie.Great! I honestly dont know what my record is but I know I have done 14 days before and now its 17 so it might be for me too. The amazing thing about making it this far is that I dont think much about masturbating anymore, I only think about fuking. Its like my mind has gone back to default.
Put all that masculine energy into your strong eye contact and body language with a nice james bond smirk, then you give her that 17 days creampie she deserves! Can I get a HAIL YEAH
How about we continue this great journey in july by creating another thread then.
You can do it man!!! Stay strong! Go out and approach!Props, @narcissist, and @Milano. I'm struggling with an online course that keeps my thoughts off fap.Still in this challenge though...
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.