"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No Fap Challenge Progress

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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skinnyguy

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Well I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself tonight cause my date just flaked on me.

Maybe I'll stay home and fap to MILF porn.
 

fuzzball

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skinnyguy said:
Well I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself tonight cause my date just flaked on me.

Maybe I'll stay home and fap to MILF porn.
lol

well I think due to a couple of days of not sleeping and stress that not fapping causes I caved in today and said fvck it. I did however make sure I didnt have a long porn session but rather just a few minutes.

I did it three times. honestly I feel a lot less stressed and I dont feel as mentally polluted as a long porn session causes.

I think if there are no sex prospects in sight whether its due to religious reasons or just coming to terms with what game is and as such still in that "forever alone.jpg" state. I think whacking off one day every 7-10 days is probably a healthy route to go.

I should add whacking off without porn and not for an extended period of time....basically just satisfying the physical need to do so is really the key. or if you do use porn minimize it to just a few minutes and not using any of the extreme stuff so your brain doesnt suffer too many after effects of porn use. so you still get off and feel better and release the tension but dont go full throttle with hour long porn sessions which i think is where the problems rise. that hour long porn sessions is really where the yourbrainonporn.com is getting its information of the bad effects of porn use.

also guys dont forget....STOP FEELING GUILTY. that helps a lot.
 

lazybuttalented

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Day 1 starts tomorrow for me!
I've done this before but only for a week and even then I could tell a difference in everything.

HERE WE GO!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheMusic

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Day 30. Only downside: slept in a room with 4 others and had a real fun dream.
 

lazybuttalented

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Day 5. Really bad urge when I first woke up. Had to force myself out of bed and worked out. Felt great. So far..
-Increase in energy (A LOT!)
-Confidence rising
-Girls noticing me more
-More aggressive
 

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First Update

This is kinda late since I'm on day 7, but yea
I'll try for 21, and see if I wanna go to 42. Wish me luck. This isn't the first time I tried 3 weeks so I'll probably go until 42. Meditation and Pink Floyd helps a lot
 

TheMusic

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Day 48. Having the urge to **** every girl I see, but seem to be able to stop myself from doing so.

Trying to get to day 365. Old record was 150. Keep up the good work guys. It's pretty easy.
 

Ma3stro

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Day 10 phew...getting tougher to resist everyday. Even with exercise and a 10 hour work day, so much energy. Must. Hold. On. At this point it's more about testing my willpower than anything else.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MtnMan

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I think its like day 53 for me. I have been getting laid once or twice a week by my regular (ex gf). I find the nofap is harder when you know sex is going to happen soon. She sent me a pic of her sunbathing and we exchanged some sexual shat via text, she is coming over friday and its nearly impossible to persevere!
No fap is a very interesting experiment for sure, it makes sex better. The one downside I notice is that when I do have sex I can feel myself sink back into a state of less energy and it takes a couple days to get it back. I suppose before nofap I lived in that state all the time.
 

narcissist

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alright boys.

back to day 1.

I am very serious about this now. I will be documenting each day in this journal until I reach 90 days and how I'm feeling that day. It will go a little something like this:

day: #1

feelings: Fine, No urge to fap at all.
 

TheMusic

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Day 61. Im getting wat too needy. 2 more weeks, till 75 days and then I'll quit.
 

chief41

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Stopped looking at porn since 2014 started

Did no fap for ~2 months --> regressed for ~ 2 months --> 2+ weeks since 'restarted'

There is appreciable/positive difference when 'off', been bit harder for me perhaps bc haven't been having sex at all
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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YoungSir4sho

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^^^ Yup Unfortunately I fapped monday morning but Im 4 days clean now! And will continue with this challenge.
 

mike465

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I basically fapped about 5 mins before joining in this challenge so each day at 9pm will be the cut off point
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

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