To use it to keep him an orbiter. She knows it is easy peasy validationWhy is she so hellbent on keeping a relationship with your son?
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
To use it to keep him an orbiter. She knows it is easy peasy validationWhy is she so hellbent on keeping a relationship with your son?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This. ^^This would be my reply to anything and everything she sent me:
(Absolutely nothing)
WRONG ANSWER!7 months together, kids involved. Met my whole family, working together, she was my boss. 6x a week together. Felt like a realy family.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think I'm past this point. Too much chasing, begging, any attempts, invitations on my part will be declined and put me in a weak position. I think I'm gonna avoid her for now at the kids exchange. Create some mystery and not show up, cos she thinks I'm here waiting for this opportunity to see her.agree with @dude99 mostly
you could try to friend-zone her hard and simply start telling her about others girls/dates etc
ask her opinion and stuff, like a FRIEND
considering her reaction to the sleep-over... this will feed her hamster HARD and you might WIN.
choose some opportune time, invite HER to a sleep-over (use the kids as excuse)
cant hurt
Even if he does this and it works.......we all know this dude is going to repeat his beta behavior because he is 100% beta. Hell he already reverted back to acting how he did that got him dumped in the first place. It would be over in days because he would act the exact same way.agree with @dude99 mostly
you could try to friend-zone her hard and simply start telling her about others girls/dates etc
ask her opinion and stuff, like a FRIEND
considering her reaction to the sleep-over... this will feed her hamster HARD and you might WIN.
choose some opportune time, invite HER to a sleep-over (use the kids as excuse)
cant hurt
Nah man, I learnt with my mistakes, not falling for it a 3rd time. She breadcrumbed me with a text and said no to meet up to see my reaction. I failed. She even called to show she was jealous and other crap... Not falling for it again.Even if he does this and it works.......we all know this dude is going to repeat his beta behavior because he is 100% beta. Hell he already reverted back to acting how he did that got him dumped in the first place. It would be over in days because he would act the exact same way.
Sorry but I could probably pull this off but he cant. I would never try this with a woman because once its over I am smart enough to go out and find 2 or 3 more chicks than to sift through the garbage can trying to make a failed relationship work.....regardless of why it failed.
Yeah she seems like a diamond in the rough. I wish we could all be lucky and find someone as elegant and feminine as her with all that interest she has in you.She will be back man to test again. Come on now, this girl blocked me everywhere. Said would call police and still reached out. She is not scared to approach. It's not a few msgs that closed the case. If she truly wanted to close this for good she wouldn't want my kid around.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No bro. You have no more shots. Its over. She sees you are still the same person she left. Move on with your life she already has.Well I will have another shot..she will reach out in 2 weeks when my son is here. I can play it right now.
Yeah it's probably over. If I'm lucky I can fk her. But probably not even that.No bro. You have no more shots. Its over. She sees you are still the same person she left. Move on with your life she already has.
None of that happened. Stop trolling.Yeah it's probably done. I still want to handle myself well from now on in my interactions with her about the kids. I became too needy. When I met her I was the bad boy. Im bald, full of tats. I saw her in the bar, she was in out group of friends. I went up to her and said just this "hi, I would like to fk u tonight, wanna come to my place." she said no. I said OK it's your loss. And I left. 2 days later she found me in Facebook and sent me a friend request. I sent her 2 or 3 texts. Asked her for a drink near her place, she said she was sick in bed all Weekend, I said cool ill make u tea and massage all weekend. She was like omg ok come Over. .. We had our first date at her place. She dropped a fwb she had immediately to be with me. Those were the days... Lolololol
I can't believe how I went from day 1 to now only in 7 months.
LOL I swear on my son broNone of that happened. Stop trolling.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Why are you even agreeing to any of this? Is that his sister?No one answered my question. During the kid exchange should I be present or not? Example if I drive him to her place should I stay in the car or go to her doorstep.? Or if she comes to pick him up, should I bring him downstairs or just send my kid alone? Or I can say I'm at work.
female styled chat from 1990s, ^^7 months together, kids involved. Met my whole family, working together, she was my boss. 6x a week together. Felt like a realy family.
They are close friends. They play games online and are video calling at same time hours a day om the weekends.Why are you even agreeing to any of this? Is that his sister?
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.