This is just an example of how childish and petty the female mind is. It's a common misconception that women are selective. They are just petty and picky because they can be and don't know an important thing from a trivial thing.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
There is a difference between looking good and subscribing to retarded fashion ideas that litter the minds of today's 18 yr. olds. A woman that would reject you based on a glimpse of your (normal looking) underwear is probably so f'n retarded she can't walk and chew gum at the same time. Not worth it.Zebedee said:Actually it is part of being an alpha male involves looking your best.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The rest of the date was awkward or you were awkward? Did you let it stay that way or did you try to break that. Once it goes awkward you have to diffuse it. Because if you get riled up over a little comment over underwear, then yes she will disqualify you (and rightfully so, as well as justify her stereotypes of tightywhitey men). You have to always blast through those sorts of misconceptions, you have to be the coolest dude in TW's that she ever met.Crimson Tide said:had a date with a hb 8, everything went pretty good... until I bent over to grab something, revealing my waste line. she looked shocked and said "You don't wear boxers??"
I was kinda caught off guard and said "I wear what's comfortable." The rest of the date was kinda awkward.
anyway a day later I got a text saying "sorry I don't date guys who wear whitey tighties."
I said "ok lol"
I guess I learned my lesson.
LMAO!!!San Jose California said:^It's not that. It's because tighty whities are disgusting and for little kids and mentally disabled people.
Agreed. But apparently many of the guys on this thread are just as childish and petty.ketostix said:This is just an example of how childish and petty the female mind is. It's a common misconception that women are selective. They are just petty and picky because they can be and don't know an important thing from a trivial thing.
4 R.E.A.L. D.O.E.KontrollerX said:What a stupid b!tch.
The only lesson you need to learn is your better off without an idiot like that in your life.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Prod said:There is a difference between looking good and subscribing to retarded fashion ideas that litter the minds of today's 18 yr. olds. A woman that would reject you based on a glimpse of your (normal looking) underwear is probably so f'n retarded she can't walk and chew gum at the same time. Not worth it.
P.S I don't even like white tighteys, but I sure as hell wouldn't hit the panic button if that happened to me and my underwear. OP handled it perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.