This is just an example of how childish and petty the female mind is. It's a common misconception that women are selective. They are just petty and picky because they can be and don't know an important thing from a trivial thing.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
There is a difference between looking good and subscribing to retarded fashion ideas that litter the minds of today's 18 yr. olds. A woman that would reject you based on a glimpse of your (normal looking) underwear is probably so f'n retarded she can't walk and chew gum at the same time. Not worth it.Zebedee said:Actually it is part of being an alpha male involves looking your best.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The rest of the date was awkward or you were awkward? Did you let it stay that way or did you try to break that. Once it goes awkward you have to diffuse it. Because if you get riled up over a little comment over underwear, then yes she will disqualify you (and rightfully so, as well as justify her stereotypes of tightywhitey men). You have to always blast through those sorts of misconceptions, you have to be the coolest dude in TW's that she ever met.Crimson Tide said:had a date with a hb 8, everything went pretty good... until I bent over to grab something, revealing my waste line. she looked shocked and said "You don't wear boxers??"
I was kinda caught off guard and said "I wear what's comfortable." The rest of the date was kinda awkward.
anyway a day later I got a text saying "sorry I don't date guys who wear whitey tighties."
I said "ok lol"
I guess I learned my lesson.
LMAO!!!San Jose California said:^It's not that. It's because tighty whities are disgusting and for little kids and mentally disabled people.
Agreed. But apparently many of the guys on this thread are just as childish and petty.ketostix said:This is just an example of how childish and petty the female mind is. It's a common misconception that women are selective. They are just petty and picky because they can be and don't know an important thing from a trivial thing.
4 R.E.A.L. D.O.E.KontrollerX said:What a stupid b!tch.
The only lesson you need to learn is your better off without an idiot like that in your life.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Prod said:There is a difference between looking good and subscribing to retarded fashion ideas that litter the minds of today's 18 yr. olds. A woman that would reject you based on a glimpse of your (normal looking) underwear is probably so f'n retarded she can't walk and chew gum at the same time. Not worth it.
P.S I don't even like white tighteys, but I sure as hell wouldn't hit the panic button if that happened to me and my underwear. OP handled it perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.