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Good suggestion, @The_411

Here's some articles that you might want to check out, Nick.

http://calnewport.com/blog/2013/12/...ce-of-planning-every-minute-of-your-work-day/

http://calnewport.com/blog/2014/08/08/deep-habits-plan-your-week-in-advance/

Here are links to a very simple productivity system. I use this. I could certainly do more of the 2nd one. But the idea here is just to keep it simple. No complex system. No integrated apps. It can all be done with a piece of paper. I do this every morning. Hope it helps.

I know you're reading other things and doing a lot of other stuff, so squeezing Cal's books in probably isn't the best right now. But, the books all stemmed from his original research for the blog 'Study Hacks' (linked) where he outlines Zen Valedictorian methods - which I've read extensively and read from time to time (today, I re-read two on focusing and developing a focused work habit). So if you're struggling with something in particular, lmk. I'm sure I can link an article that you can read quickly instead of having to read through his books.

To expand on 411's post; some people might seem like geniuses. They seem like they have it all together. It seems 'natural' like they were just born with it. Hmm... where have I heard that before? But the truth of the matter is: "all men are created equal, some work harder in pre-season". They didn't become geniuses (acquire the ability to learn hard things quickly, which Cal talks about extensively) out of the blue. There was a time in their life where they learned this skill and now it seems natural - you just don't know about it. Just like naturals in getting women.
Isn’t it crazy how many parallels there are between Seduction and regular life? There really is no such thing as a “natural.” That’s another one of the reasons I’m so glad that I found this community.

And alright, you’ve convinced me haha. I’ll check out some of Cal Newport’s books. They’ll still be very applicable to me because I have a good amount of time left in college. And I’d honestly prefer the book, I love reading. I just found out that if I want Elite Waves I’m gonna have to brush anywhere from 1-2 hours a day. I pass the time with audiobooks so I can learn and increase my knowledge while I get Wavy.

Which one do you recommend I start with? “How to Win at College” seemed pretty interesting
 

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AMS hit the nail on the head young girls these days really are extremely shallow. They just want good looks and social status, and validation. Normies/NPCs are nearly just as bad. I see examples of it every single day, crazy how people on the internet described human nature perfectly.

Yet these are the same girls that complain about guys “only wanting one thing” and being shallow only going for looks.

Another thing that I’ve learned(and already knew from Corey Wayne) is that women who are attracted to you will make things easy for you. They’ll open the doors, all you have to do is walk through them. If it’s like pulling teeth(you can tell from Two Strikes) then they don’t like you. Drop it. And if they really did like you, they’ll hit you back up. Then you need to play it cool.
 
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Isn’t it crazy how many parallels there are between Seduction and regular life?

Which one do you recommend I start with? “How to Win at College” seemed pretty interesting
Life is simple when you think about it. Many things have parallels at a high level. It's just that the nuances of each situation often make them uniquely challenging and make us forget the simplicity of the situation.

Hmm.. The only two books he has that I know of that are audiobooks are So Good They Can't Ignore you and Deep Work. The first gives you a motivation to get good and explains his passion hypothesis. The second is a more detailed look at how to get good - becoming good at mastering difficult concepts through training focus and intensity. And many of the principals of Deep Work stem from his findings in high performing undergrad/graduate students.
 

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Life is simple when you think about it. Many things have parallels at a high level. It's just that the nuances of each situation often make them uniquely challenging and make us forget the simplicity of the situation.

Hmm.. The only two books he has that I know of that are audiobooks are So Good They Can't Ignore you and Deep Work. The first gives you a motivation to get good and explains his passion hypothesis. The second is a more detailed look at how to get good - becoming good at mastering difficult concepts through training focus and intensity. And many of the principals of Deep Work stem from his findings in high performing undergrad/graduate students.
Thanks, I’ll check them out! I’ll read the books physically that don’t have audiobooks.
 

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Basic Studio Essentials: A Rocking Bedroom Producer for Life

My new pair of studio headphones that Reddit recommended for me came in today. And I have to say, they sounds great. Not only that, but they were cheap too. I was reading around in some threads in r/edmproduction and in my book The Secrets of Dance Music Production. From what I've learned, it's perfectly viable to produce good dance music with a laptop and a decent pair of headphones. And hey, that's all I really need to be happy with my producing. I can do rough drafts over speakers and put the details in my headphones. If I can get the mix to sound good on my headphones, it'll probably sound pretty decent everywhere else. As an eternal broke boi, this sounds like a great freaking idea to me. Additionally, it's very portable. I hate lugging around speakers with me. I'd like to make good music on just speakers and a laptop(the same one that I use to program.)

Also I downloaded the Day Bang by Roosh V to my phone. Eventually, I'm going to start utilizing that.
 

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It’s been a positively ****ed up week, guys. I have much to do this weekend, but for now I’m gonna drink a bit(a lot) and make money so that I can fix my life. Cheers to the weekend.

Also not buying $100 speakers. I can make great music on a laptop and speakers. Save my money, murder school. Right guys?
 
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It’s been a positively ****ed up week, guys. I have much to do this weekend, but for now I’m gonna drink a bit(a lot) and make money so that I can fix my life. Cheers to the weekend.

Also not buying $100 speakers. I can make great music on a laptop and speakers. Save my money, murder school. Right guys?
Totally meant a laptop and studio headphones. My bad, drunk updating this journal lol. I have a Cold Approach I did that I need to tell you guys about. I’m doing better
 

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2/16/19: Date Set, School Money, NoFap Challenge, Impending Doom

Well guys, I have a date set tomorrow. We’re going to go get coffee and then make some beats at my place. I called her and told her I would hit her up. She said she was free all day and “you’d better not stand me up haha.” So I’m really not worried about a flake at all. I’ll write up a report once I do that. Rejected or accepted, I still win!

I’m making even more money tonight. I will put $175 of it in my Savings account for school. I will eat out today though cause our Cafeteria is so garbage. So that’ll cost me about $10 but I refuse to suffer through University weekend Cafeteria Food. I may buy some coconut oil for my hair as well. Maybe even grape seed oil. A waver should always have a pure oil for his hair. But other than that I’m gonna save the rest of my money. Another way to do that is to drink exclusively beer tonight and not get pounded over the head with mixed drink prices. If I want to have some mixed drinks, I’m gonna Buy cans of them from the gas station and pour them in a Powerade bottle. Being smart and saving money. I really wish someone would ask me to pay $7 for a damn mixed drink. I’d be better off buying the Four Loko or like 5 Screwdrivers from the Gas Station. I refuse to go to my job hungry too.

I’m not trying to drink anything super strong tonight anyways. I Lowkey(highkey actually) don’t need to be drinking at all today due to these impending deadlines.

My God, these Deadlines Though:
Monday: Design of Algorithms Test, Databases Test, Object Oriented Programming Daily Work
Tuesday: Unix Lab Due, Calculus II Test

Those are my most pressing deadlines at least. I have a more detailed version in my calendar but I’m just trying to let you guys know a rough idea of what my week is looking like.

I need to go back to the NoFap Challenge. It did me real good when I did it last semester. I don’t wanna abstain completely though. So I’m gonna do the Models by Mark Manson challenge. Roosh has something to say about this too. It’s very simple. Essentially, you masturbate only once every other week on Mondays. You don’t use porn either. I think this’ll be good for me as I get more lays in the future.

EDIT: I may as well get a bottle and some fruit punch. I really don’t feel like working today. Drinking will pass the time. And that’s what Powerade bottles are for! As long as I deposit that $175 in my savings for school, I’m winning in my eyes. I’ll just study right after. I have to drink at 4 hour shows lol. Gotta study lit sometimes I suppose lol. And I’ll be eating at the bar to save time too. Chicken bites in garlic Parmesan are always good.
 
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2/16/19: Date Set, School Money, NoFap Challenge, Impending Doom

Well guys, I have a date set tomorrow. We’re going to go get coffee and then make some beats at my place. I called her and told her I would hit her up. She said she was free all day and “you’d better not stand me up haha.” So I’m really not worried about a flake at all. I’ll write up a report once I do that. Rejected or accepted, I still win!

I’m making even more money tonight. I will put $175 of it in my Savings account for school. I will eat out today though cause our Cafeteria is so garbage. So that’ll cost me about $10 but I refuse to suffer through University weekend Cafeteria Food. I may buy some coconut oil for my hair as well. Maybe even grape seed oil. A waver should always have a pure oil for his hair. But other than that I’m gonna save the rest of my money. Another way to do that is to drink exclusively beer tonight and not get pounded over the head with mixed drink prices. If I want to have some mixed drinks, I’m gonna Buy cans of them from the gas station and pour them in a Powerade bottle. Being smart and saving money. I really wish someone would ask me to pay $7 for a damn mixed drink. I’d be better off buying the Four Loko or like 5 Screwdrivers from the Gas Station. I refuse to go to my job hungry too.

I’m not trying to drink anything super strong tonight anyways. I Lowkey(highkey actually) don’t need to be drinking at all today due to these impending deadlines.

My God, these Deadlines Though:
Monday: Design of Algorithms Test, Databases Test, Object Oriented Programming Daily Work
Tuesday: Unix Lab Due, Calculus II Test

Those are my most pressing deadlines at least. I have a more detailed version in my calendar but I’m just trying to let you guys know a rough idea of what my week is looking like.

I need to go back to the NoFap Challenge. It did me real good when I did it last semester. I don’t wanna abstain completely though. So I’m gonna do the Models by Mark Manson challenge. Roosh has something to say about this too. It’s very simple. Essentially, you masturbate only once every other week on Mondays. You don’t use porn either. I think this’ll be good for me as I get more lays in the future.

EDIT: I may as well get a bottle and some fruit punch. I really don’t feel like working today. Drinking will pass the time. And that’s what Powerade bottles are for! As long as I deposit that $175 in my savings for school, I’m winning in my eyes. I’ll just study right after. I have to drink at 4 hour shows lol. Gotta study lit sometimes I suppose lol. And I’ll be eating at the bar to save time too. Chicken bites in garlic Parmesan are always good.
Be honest, you really think you'll be able to study if you're drunk? I'm having a hard enough time and all I've done today is eat lunch lmao.

Think long term.
 

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EDIT: I may as well get a bottle and some fruit punch. I really don’t feel like working today. Drinking will pass the time. And that’s what Powerade bottles are for! As long as I deposit that $175 in my savings for school, I’m winning in my eyes. I’ll just study right after. I have to drink at 4 hour shows lol. Gotta study lit sometimes I suppose lol. And I’ll be eating at the bar to save time too. Chicken bites in garlic Parmesan are always good.

I would save your money and drink coffee instead. Not as detrimental on your system.
 

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Be honest, you really think you'll be able to study if you're drunk? I'm having a hard enough time and all I've done today is eat lunch lmao.

Think long term.
It’s possible, I’ve had to do it before. But definitely not ideal
 

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I would save your money and drink coffee instead. Not as detrimental on your system.
That’s true. I do drink a lot. I’m already on the road but I think I’ll just have a couple drinks and stop there. That way I’ll sober up by the end of the show and I can get right back to studying once I get back home
 

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Study Goals
I think my biggest problem is gonna be Databases. If I fail that test, it’s goodbye Nick, lights out. The test is worth 15% of my grade.

Since that’s priority number one, I’ll start studying for that. I don’t have time to watch 11 hours worth of lectures.

If I can just get somewhere in between an 80-85, I’ll be well on my way to making it out of this class.

I’ll watch the review lecture, read his slides, and read the book. I think that’ll be the best way to handle it.

Maybe I shouldn’t even try the (makeup) Design of Algorithms Test and just let it go? I’d make a C in the class but I could put more effort into Databases if I were to do that. And if I make an A in Databases, that would cancel out the C in Design of Algorithms.

I’m waiting on an email from my teacher though. I think the smartest thing to do would be to be totally ready with the Databases material before I even start the Design of Algorithms material. Because in my opinion, this Databases Test is way more critical. If I fail that test, IT’S OVER FOR ME.

I wouldn’t have to micromanage this if I hadn’t procrastinated. Both work and school are heating up.

Once again, you guys let me know what you think. I’m trying so hard to succeed but life keeps pushing me down.

For one, I’m blind brushing in the car on the way and back to this show. I don’t have time to be brushing heavy. I’ve got to study for these tests.
 

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Success or Failure lies before you. You are at choice, every moment. Small choices add up over time. From the outside looking in, it is not looking good, for you at the moment. You keep acting like you are on some vacation, rather than focusing and ACTING on what TRULY needs to be done! What story do your ACTUAL actions tell? Are you building a SOLID foundation for the rest of your life or a flimsy one that you'll forever regret? Tell yourself the truth! Wake Up! Get your priorities straight! You'll never get this time back!
 

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Success or Failure lies before you. You are at choice, every moment. Small choices add up over time. From the outside looking in, it is not looking good, for you at the moment. You keep acting like you are on some vacation, rather than focusing and ACTING on what TRULY needs to be done! What story do your ACTUAL actions tell? Are you building a SOLID foundation for the rest of your life or a flimsy one that you'll forever regret? Tell yourself the truth! Wake Up! Get your priorities straight! You'll never get this time back!
Ugh. The truth hurts really bad. What would I do without you guys to set me straight?

Tell you what. I won’t even drink at all tonight. I’ll even do you one better, and I’ll study for Databases during my breaks. I’m sorry, but I just can’t study in the car. The headaches are insane.

I know I can pass the Databases Test. With maybe 10 or so hours of review, it can be done. I’m really freaking out about my deadlines so I’ll focus on that first. If I do that, I’m in a good position to pass the class because I passed the first program.

I don’t even care about a 4.0 anymore. If I can just get anything above a 3.0(even a 2.8 would be fine), pass all my classes, and keep moving towards a Computer Science degree, I’ll be ok.

I think most of the stress and hate from my life stems from wanting to be perfect. I want to have the perfect grades, body, producing, violin skills, hair, dancing, and athleticism. This stuff stresses me out to no end.

But right now I guess I just need to be worried about school.

I know you guys aren’t psychiatrists, but could I get comments on these issues? I’m really struggling. Maybe I need to stop BSing and get in therapy like you guys said. It’s so frustrating because I was supposed to be this perfect “wonder child” and now look at me. I’m a mess.
 

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I literally don’t even feel like being social or approaching tonight. I just wanna put my head down, work, and study. I’ll have a chance to work on my Game tomorrow with this Date
 

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My Mental Health, Studying, Game, and 360 Waves

Well it looks like I can’t study on the Data. I’ll have to do it once I get back. I really don’t wanna work today. I thought I’d be studying. I didn’t even realize I had a show today cause no one told me.

I’m gonna have to just brush to be productive, working on my 360 Waves(and therefore confidence and therefore my capacity to do approaches which needs to be as high as possible.)

I’ll study the second I get back so I can knock this exam out of the park. I know about what I’m getting into with the Databases Test at least.

Since we’re on the topic of my Mental Health. I’m so sorry that I’ve always been talking about ending my life in this journal guys. I realized yesterday why I could never do that. I was talking to my sister yesterday on the phone and I made a joke about killing myself so I wouldn’t have to take this test. She took it seriously and said she’d be crushed. So at least I have reason to live now...

But enough morbid stuff. If I’m gonna have 360 Waves I’ll have to blind brush at least for now. No way around it. I agree with RG3 and 3WP. For now at least.

But I’m gonna work and brush. No drinking. And then I’ll get back home and prepare for Databases.

I know it’ll all come together for me. I guess it’ll just take time.

Can I get some comments, tough love, and/or words of encouragement?

PS : I need to start carrying around lotion man, my hands
 
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I literally don’t even feel like being social or approaching tonight. I just wanna put my head down, work, and study. I’ll have a chance to work on my Game tomorrow with this Date
Everyone has their issues. No one is perfect. It's not about what you were supposed to be. It's not about what others want you to do. It's not about how they perceive you.

It's about what you want to be. And how you deal with the journey. There will be mountains. There will be valleys. And you must conquer them all the same.

"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands in times of challenge and controversy." - MLK Jr

How will you turn this valley into a mountain? Will you keep spectating your life or will you get out there in the second half and give it all you've got to change the score? You're well aware of your issues. You've detailed them many times in this thread. The question is not what needs to be fixed but WHEN you will fix it.

Nothing worth having is easy. And if you want to have a life you're proud of, it's time to strap up and get busy.

"You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime you better
No more games, I'm a change what you call rage
Tear this mother****in' roof off like two dogs caged
I was playin' in the beginnin', the mood all changed
I been chewed up and spit out and booed off stage
But I kept rhymin' and stepwritin' the next cipher" - Em

Lose Yourself before you lose yourself.

Edit: WHEN and HOW. There's no special tricks to getting it done. You're gonna have to study your ass of. You're going to have to sacrifice fun. You're going to have to ask for help. I was reading some olllld posts yesterday and I found this resoundingly resonant:
Humility is the path to growth in any avenue.
 
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