back when i was young, before girls really interested me, my mom would always say how i should be polite. now in 10th grade however, its kind of working against me. any tips on how to break the "sort of" nice guy reputation around ppl who knew how i used to be?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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there's nothing wrong with being nice.
right now, i'm trying to be nicer to people cause i get called a jerk a lot.
like you, i misunderstood at first what this site is trying to tell you.
you don't want to be mean, and treat people like they're under you. treat them with respect and most importantly respect yourself.
basically just don't be a pvssy.
right now, i'm trying to be nicer to people cause i get called a jerk a lot.
like you, i misunderstood at first what this site is trying to tell you.
you don't want to be mean, and treat people like they're under you. treat them with respect and most importantly respect yourself.
basically just don't be a pvssy.
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foxtrot191
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I kinda know where you are coming from. I am a nice guy to, but I can get girls now sometimes. I notice that it's because I am more lively now then b4. Are you quiet type? If you are then girls won't know what to make of you. You just have to come out of your shell a bit.
foxtrot191
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Then I'd just say you have to flirt n stuff. Women are secretive and don't really give away who they like i've noticed.
lsu03 said:no, i talk a lot, well not a lot, but ppl surely know who i am. my class only has 35 ppl in it!!
???
I have a class with 12 ppl in it
35 to a classroom is alot, unless you were being sarcastic
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.