back when i was young, before girls really interested me, my mom would always say how i should be polite. now in 10th grade however, its kind of working against me. any tips on how to break the "sort of" nice guy reputation around ppl who knew how i used to be?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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there's nothing wrong with being nice.
right now, i'm trying to be nicer to people cause i get called a jerk a lot.
like you, i misunderstood at first what this site is trying to tell you.
you don't want to be mean, and treat people like they're under you. treat them with respect and most importantly respect yourself.
basically just don't be a pvssy.
right now, i'm trying to be nicer to people cause i get called a jerk a lot.
like you, i misunderstood at first what this site is trying to tell you.
you don't want to be mean, and treat people like they're under you. treat them with respect and most importantly respect yourself.
basically just don't be a pvssy.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
foxtrot191
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I kinda know where you are coming from. I am a nice guy to, but I can get girls now sometimes. I notice that it's because I am more lively now then b4. Are you quiet type? If you are then girls won't know what to make of you. You just have to come out of your shell a bit.
foxtrot191
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Then I'd just say you have to flirt n stuff. Women are secretive and don't really give away who they like i've noticed.
lsu03 said:no, i talk a lot, well not a lot, but ppl surely know who i am. my class only has 35 ppl in it!!
???
I have a class with 12 ppl in it
35 to a classroom is alot, unless you were being sarcastic
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.