Hey,
I have a woman in my life which I initially saw as a friend. After some talking and nonsense games we started doing fun activities together like once a month for about 4 months. Last time I tried to initiate some physical contact which she neither declined nor returned. This time I was trying to set up a date in the nature which is not just a fun activity for friends. She responded that she wanted do to hang out with two of our mutual friends (her best girl friend and a friendzoned guy) at her place and that I should join them.
I don’t know why she did that
1. she didn’t want to say that she sees me as just a friend so she tries to subcommunicate it since we always met one-on-one before
2. I still didn’t communicate my intentions clear enough and she really wanted to do something with her friends that day
3. she may feel unsecure since I started to reveal my intentions after threatening her as just a friend for several weeks
3. she wants to test me
Should I just tell her that I dont want to meet up with that group and that we can hang out some other time?
I really don’t want to go there which may seem like I’m unflexible or egoistic but I don’t want to walk into this „trap“. In my opinion only a beta malewould agree to this.
I have a woman in my life which I initially saw as a friend. After some talking and nonsense games we started doing fun activities together like once a month for about 4 months. Last time I tried to initiate some physical contact which she neither declined nor returned. This time I was trying to set up a date in the nature which is not just a fun activity for friends. She responded that she wanted do to hang out with two of our mutual friends (her best girl friend and a friendzoned guy) at her place and that I should join them.
I don’t know why she did that
1. she didn’t want to say that she sees me as just a friend so she tries to subcommunicate it since we always met one-on-one before
2. I still didn’t communicate my intentions clear enough and she really wanted to do something with her friends that day
3. she may feel unsecure since I started to reveal my intentions after threatening her as just a friend for several weeks
3. she wants to test me
Should I just tell her that I dont want to meet up with that group and that we can hang out some other time?
I really don’t want to go there which may seem like I’m unflexible or egoistic but I don’t want to walk into this „trap“. In my opinion only a beta malewould agree to this.