Newly single man here. Is 27 too old to date around?

[Brighty]

Long time no see guys, been out of the game a long time.

I just got out of a serious relationship of three years and I'm suddenly single again at 27, which is a weird feeling for me.

Looking at some of the single girls my own age whatever for the first time seems like almost opening a time capsule, like the girls my own age have now advanced into their late twenties (when did I become this old? lol) while I was busy being in a relationship and now girls my age are looking to settle down and get married. To be honest, that seems really intimidating to me because that's something I'm definitely not ready for or interested in until I'm at LEAST 30 (preferably 32/33) because I've heard so many horror stories of divorce (my parents being one) that I'm super hesitant to jump into marriage unless I'm positive she's the one.

I've searched reddit and other forums before on advice about dating in your late twenties and if it's "too late" or if all the good ones are taken, and it seems the only topics I can find are from people who haven't had much success in their dating lives *period* asking if there's still a chance at 27 for them to find love. My heart goes out to them, but I was wondering if the advice changes a bit when you're relatively normal or even have been successful in your dating life previously?

Is it still hard to date at 27? I'm attractive, tall, and in shape with a decent job, and I'm good at talking to women. I didn't have any problems meeting and dating women at 24/25, and in fact I dated around a bit when I was 24/25 and I really enjoyed it. I dated women anywhere from 21-25 and even met an amazing girl there that became my (now ex) girlfriend for 3 years. Yet call it nerves or just the "post breakup depression", but my confidence is shaken at the prospect of going back out on the market and dating - I'm worried that I'm too old to be doing this and should be looking to settle down when I feel like I'm just not ready.


I really do believe that women mature so much more than men in their 20s, that a 27 year old woman is way more mature than a typical 27 y/o man, and while I would jump at the chance to date a great woman at that age, I feel like it's almost being dishonest if I'm not looking to settle down (because I know so many women in my midwest city want to get married before 30).

Am I basically stuck dating in the 21-25 age bracket at this point? Is it hard going back out and being single at 27? All of my older friends say that I'm being ridiculous and that 27 is a great time to be single, but I still feel really nervous about it, and could use some serious advice here if I'm being ridiculous or if I have anything to worry about. I think deep down I know I am being ridiculous and its just the post-breakup depression talking or w/e, and maybe I'm just looking for a good verbal slap for a wakeup call.

Thanks guys.

 

[Red Legg]

You are a spring chicken.

 

[RangerMIke]

I'm 50 and have two dates this week with chicks around your age or younger this week. It's not too late.

Your problem is that you are approaching dating with the goal of getting a GF. That will fvck you up. Go on dates to have fun, and let the chicks worry about relationship BS. Figure out what it is that you like to do and invite chicks along that you think will be fun. Do not worry about if she is ms. right, because none of them are... or all of them are... ALL chicks are the same, with differing personalities.

 

[fastlife]

@Brighty You're a year older than me & we're at a phenomenal age range in the dating market. However, there is one difficulty: You are no longer in high school or college & your friends/social circles will probably have less attractive single women they can throw your way. Basically, if you were like me & were passive & just let girls come to you, then you're SOL.

But if you put in a little bit of work and go out and approach women, then your age, if anything, is an advantage. I prefer girls in the 18-21 y/o range--they tend to be funner, more flexible, lower maintenance, less jaded and more attractive. Of course, they'll sh1t test you on your age, but if you are confident that what you're doing is normal and correct & can joke it off, then it's game on. You have an advantage over guys their age--you should be more dominant, have more resources, be more sexually experience & more confident from real life experiences than the guys their age. Also, you are a part of a demographic that a lot of them desire but that they don't have a ton of access to. Most guys in our age range have settled--they're in relationships, they're stuck in routines, they don't go out anymore or they have let themselves go. Of those that are still single, most of them have been thoroughly shamed by society into dating girls in their own age range.

For girls ages 22-25, you generally have girls that are looking to cash in their chips. They have probably dated sexy men and generally want a little more stability and longterm assurance. Many of them have had bad break up experiences & their friends are all getting married & they want to be able to post couple pics on IG. It's still possible to have success, but I don't do nearly as well with girls that age. Most of them have too many red flags for me to even pretend like I could offer them a relationship & a lot of them give me too much sh1t for just a light-hearted good time.

Ages 26-30 are a mixed bag. You have plenty of holdovers from the 22-25 y/o mentality, who are still looking for their happy ever after. Then you have women who have been in failed LTRs or married and are looking to relive their 18-21 y/o experiences (albeit with more constraints & entitlement than they had when they were younger). Very few girls that age in America have taken care of themselves well enough to still be at peak attractiveness.

But the most important factor in all this is YOU. If you feel good about yourself & are making strides to improve your life, then everything else falls into place.

 

[sph21]

I'm 35 and dating a 21 years old girl. You see, age is not the matter here.

You have not been on the hunt for a long time and that can shake your confidence. The only way to restore it back is to get another date. You need to build the momentum. It'll be easier.

Be a fun guy. Chicks love it.

 

[lizardking82]

You feel naturally depressed right now cause of the break up. It will pass with time, but you seem like you are not really enjoying your life, like there is not much you're passionate about. If I am wrong, tell me.

 

[TheGambino]

Nah, youre fine. Welcome to the community.

 

[wifehunter]

you old geezer!

 

[marmel75]

Hell no

 

[captain55]

27 should be the prime of your life. Probably the best age to be as a man......old enough for women to take you seriously but young enough to not be creepy for going out with young chicks