Long time no see guys, been out of the game a long time.
I just got out of a serious relationship of three years and I'm suddenly single again at 27, which is a weird feeling for me.
Looking at some of the single girls my own age whatever for the first time seems like almost opening a time capsule, like the girls my own age have now advanced into their late twenties (when did I become this old? lol) while I was busy being in a relationship and now girls my age are looking to settle down and get married. To be honest, that seems really intimidating to me because that's something I'm definitely not ready for or interested in until I'm at LEAST 30 (preferably 32/33) because I've heard so many horror stories of divorce (my parents being one) that I'm super hesitant to jump into marriage unless I'm positive she's the one.
I've searched reddit and other forums before on advice about dating in your late twenties and if it's "too late" or if all the good ones are taken, and it seems the only topics I can find are from people who haven't had much success in their dating lives *period* asking if there's still a chance at 27 for them to find love. My heart goes out to them, but I was wondering if the advice changes a bit when you're relatively normal or even have been successful in your dating life previously?
Is it still hard to date at 27? I'm attractive, tall, and in shape with a decent job, and I'm good at talking to women. I didn't have any problems meeting and dating women at 24/25, and in fact I dated around a bit when I was 24/25 and I really enjoyed it. I dated women anywhere from 21-25 and even met an amazing girl there that became my (now ex) girlfriend for 3 years. Yet call it nerves or just the "post breakup depression", but my confidence is shaken at the prospect of going back out on the market and dating - I'm worried that I'm too old to be doing this and should be looking to settle down when I feel like I'm just not ready.
I really do believe that women mature so much more than men in their 20s, that a 27 year old woman is way more mature than a typical 27 y/o man, and while I would jump at the chance to date a great woman at that age, I feel like it's almost being dishonest if I'm not looking to settle down (because I know so many women in my midwest city want to get married before 30).
Am I basically stuck dating in the 21-25 age bracket at this point? Is it hard going back out and being single at 27? All of my older friends say that I'm being ridiculous and that 27 is a great time to be single, but I still feel really nervous about it, and could use some serious advice here if I'm being ridiculous or if I have anything to worry about. I think deep down I know I am being ridiculous and its just the post-breakup depression talking or w/e, and maybe I'm just looking for a good verbal slap for a wakeup call.
Thanks guys.
I just got out of a serious relationship of three years and I'm suddenly single again at 27, which is a weird feeling for me.
Looking at some of the single girls my own age whatever for the first time seems like almost opening a time capsule, like the girls my own age have now advanced into their late twenties (when did I become this old? lol) while I was busy being in a relationship and now girls my age are looking to settle down and get married. To be honest, that seems really intimidating to me because that's something I'm definitely not ready for or interested in until I'm at LEAST 30 (preferably 32/33) because I've heard so many horror stories of divorce (my parents being one) that I'm super hesitant to jump into marriage unless I'm positive she's the one.
I've searched reddit and other forums before on advice about dating in your late twenties and if it's "too late" or if all the good ones are taken, and it seems the only topics I can find are from people who haven't had much success in their dating lives *period* asking if there's still a chance at 27 for them to find love. My heart goes out to them, but I was wondering if the advice changes a bit when you're relatively normal or even have been successful in your dating life previously?
Is it still hard to date at 27? I'm attractive, tall, and in shape with a decent job, and I'm good at talking to women. I didn't have any problems meeting and dating women at 24/25, and in fact I dated around a bit when I was 24/25 and I really enjoyed it. I dated women anywhere from 21-25 and even met an amazing girl there that became my (now ex) girlfriend for 3 years. Yet call it nerves or just the "post breakup depression", but my confidence is shaken at the prospect of going back out on the market and dating - I'm worried that I'm too old to be doing this and should be looking to settle down when I feel like I'm just not ready.
I really do believe that women mature so much more than men in their 20s, that a 27 year old woman is way more mature than a typical 27 y/o man, and while I would jump at the chance to date a great woman at that age, I feel like it's almost being dishonest if I'm not looking to settle down (because I know so many women in my midwest city want to get married before 30).
Am I basically stuck dating in the 21-25 age bracket at this point? Is it hard going back out and being single at 27? All of my older friends say that I'm being ridiculous and that 27 is a great time to be single, but I still feel really nervous about it, and could use some serious advice here if I'm being ridiculous or if I have anything to worry about. I think deep down I know I am being ridiculous and its just the post-breakup depression talking or w/e, and maybe I'm just looking for a good verbal slap for a wakeup call.
Thanks guys.
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