Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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gov87

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A new girl I started hanging with a couple weeks ago seems to be getting attached. She's a really cool girl from what I've seen so far- her sense of humor is like a guy, she's cooked me dinner, and seems to get things for the most part. However, her compliments to me are becoming more frequent and she's saying things like "it's so good to have kinda met someone that is so cool to be around". I told her just the other day that I wasn't looking for anything serious and we were "just hanging out" and she said she got it.

She's prob a 6-7, a little thick around the waist which isn't my type but she's fun to be around. She has a past where she's gotten in quite a bit of trouble, but we do have a connection on similar struggles. Also, the s^x is pretty good. She's up for it whenever, wherever. Another thing is my BPD sensors are wanting to go off. I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid about all of this bc of past AFC tendencies or if I should make a move to back away some.

Appreciate any help.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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grayclif

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Spin plates. I think you answered your own question.
 

Rainman4707

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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

What that guy said :up:
 

Zarky

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^^^^^^^^ What they said.

However, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong at this point. Standard chick attachment progression. Her interest level is high and that's fine. Just keep her expectations reasonable... don't tell her you love her or any sh*t like that.

I was in the first couple of months of a relationship back in 2012 with this chick who had a sky-high interest level. When we were on the couch watching TV or whatever she would literally crawl all over me sniffing me and saying, "God I love how you smell!"

Of course after awhile the chick will realize that you're not as into her as she is into you and then her interest level will start a rollercoaster ride until the ugly end... but that comes later ;)
 

gov87

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Haha thanks for the advice guys. That's what my gut was telling me and it's nice to get the confirmation here.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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