"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A new girl I started hanging with a couple weeks ago seems to be getting attached. She's a really cool girl from what I've seen so far- her sense of humor is like a guy, she's cooked me dinner, and seems to get things for the most part. However, her compliments to me are becoming more frequent and she's saying things like "it's so good to have kinda met someone that is so cool to be around". I told her just the other day that I wasn't looking for anything serious and we were "just hanging out" and she said she got it.

She's prob a 6-7, a little thick around the waist which isn't my type but she's fun to be around. She has a past where she's gotten in quite a bit of trouble, but we do have a connection on similar struggles. Also, the s^x is pretty good. She's up for it whenever, wherever. Another thing is my BPD sensors are wanting to go off. I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid about all of this bc of past AFC tendencies or if I should make a move to back away some.

Appreciate any help.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Spin plates. I think you answered your own question.
 
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

What that guy said :up:
 
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^^^^^^^^ What they said.

However, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong at this point. Standard chick attachment progression. Her interest level is high and that's fine. Just keep her expectations reasonable... don't tell her you love her or any sh*t like that.

I was in the first couple of months of a relationship back in 2012 with this chick who had a sky-high interest level. When we were on the couch watching TV or whatever she would literally crawl all over me sniffing me and saying, "God I love how you smell!"

Of course after awhile the chick will realize that you're not as into her as she is into you and then her interest level will start a rollercoaster ride until the ugly end... but that comes later ;)
 
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Haha thanks for the advice guys. That's what my gut was telling me and it's nice to get the confirmation here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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