"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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prairiedog24

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Is there a definitive "read this first" thread floating around here? I didn't see a sticky. Some of the shoptalk is going over my head.

ATC, HB8, etc etc.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ bible, bottom of the page. Read Pooks 15 lessons first.

A couple rules of thumb however: Dont post about trying to get ONE certain girl... Especially if you're 'friends.' You'll understand soon enough. If you have girl problems, Go Fvck Ten Other Women, to get the oneitis out of your head. Rule of thumb number two: If she shows interest, but flakes and makes excuses, she isnt really interested. Move on.

Read the dj bible, and dont put up; with any shyt from chicks. Good luck.
 

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Ah awesome. Thanks guys. I saw the DJ bible referenced once and couldn't find it. Staring me in the face the entire time.

If you have girl problems, Go Fvck Ten Other Women, to get the oneitis out of your head.
haha... no, I don't have girl problems. I do have law school problems. But not girl problems. The former will by default create the illusion of the latter sometimes though. I'm here for general self-improvement and because I'm bored as *** sometimes.

On the flip side, I'm one of those guys who doesn't see anything manly in "ffing ten other women..." just to teach myself to get over something that will be quite useful down the line, but don't worry, I know what you mean. I'm just giving you crap. All about right place right time.

Again, thanks for the info.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kevin Feng

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I know that there is one that's available on the Venusian Arts website.

Some here to get you started off.

HB - Hot babe
LTR - long term relationship
FTC - false time constraint
k-close - kiss
#- close - gettin the #
F- close- pretty straight forward

Those are the main abrevs. I use.

I would recommend reading Mystery Method or Revelation to familiarize yourself with the terminology.

-Kevin
 
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