"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New user here, Where do I start?

Alextheegreat

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Alright, I have come to a decision I need to become better with women since on my own I haven't been getting, well lucky. To describe my self, I am 18 years old, I am in college, I am 5'4", but I wear a nice button down shirt, tucked into my jeans with a belt. I walk in a confident manner(shoulder's back, chest out slightly) and I can look into the women eyes sometimes other times I just look away as we are passing. I post a picture on here, But I am groomed I have short hair that is spiked up, and I have a nice scented cologne which I don't over do it but make just right.

My questions are, where is the best place to start? I don't want to become that jerk, since I know being a jerk isn't what women want, its what the jerk showed, confident ect is what they get. I also don't say sorry, since people have told me that shows weakness. My approaching I don't look for IOI's which I read is like a smile, a touch, a double look ect. How do I look for thoses? I don't see much here and there once in awhile but who do I get a women to do that?

Thanks for all the help it is much appreciated, and yes these are a lot of questions.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sodbuster

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Find the link to DJ bible and read it. THEN you'll be able to ask questions intelligently. No disrespect meant, but the guys who know the most get tired of answering the same questions every month.
 

horaholic

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On the bottom of the page, or the link in my signature takes you to it. Start with the fifteen lessons, from Pook. It should be mandatory to read it before posting. And no, there are no magic lines either. its all about #1 make yourself a more attractive person, including being a REAL man who doesnt let chicks walk all over him. #2 growing a pair and approaching strange women.
 

Alextheegreat

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Ah, Thank you guys this has been a great help, I just finished week 1 and man I gotta say I haven't felt this good, well in like forever. I appreciate you two taking the time to post I have a million questions ha, but it will wait till I have completed my training.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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