"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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New user here, Where do I start?

Alextheegreat

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Alright, I have come to a decision I need to become better with women since on my own I haven't been getting, well lucky. To describe my self, I am 18 years old, I am in college, I am 5'4", but I wear a nice button down shirt, tucked into my jeans with a belt. I walk in a confident manner(shoulder's back, chest out slightly) and I can look into the women eyes sometimes other times I just look away as we are passing. I post a picture on here, But I am groomed I have short hair that is spiked up, and I have a nice scented cologne which I don't over do it but make just right.

My questions are, where is the best place to start? I don't want to become that jerk, since I know being a jerk isn't what women want, its what the jerk showed, confident ect is what they get. I also don't say sorry, since people have told me that shows weakness. My approaching I don't look for IOI's which I read is like a smile, a touch, a double look ect. How do I look for thoses? I don't see much here and there once in awhile but who do I get a women to do that?

Thanks for all the help it is much appreciated, and yes these are a lot of questions.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sodbuster

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Find the link to DJ bible and read it. THEN you'll be able to ask questions intelligently. No disrespect meant, but the guys who know the most get tired of answering the same questions every month.
 

horaholic

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On the bottom of the page, or the link in my signature takes you to it. Start with the fifteen lessons, from Pook. It should be mandatory to read it before posting. And no, there are no magic lines either. its all about #1 make yourself a more attractive person, including being a REAL man who doesnt let chicks walk all over him. #2 growing a pair and approaching strange women.
 

Alextheegreat

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Ah, Thank you guys this has been a great help, I just finished week 1 and man I gotta say I haven't felt this good, well in like forever. I appreciate you two taking the time to post I have a million questions ha, but it will wait till I have completed my training.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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