"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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New user here, Where do I start?

Alextheegreat

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Alright, I have come to a decision I need to become better with women since on my own I haven't been getting, well lucky. To describe my self, I am 18 years old, I am in college, I am 5'4", but I wear a nice button down shirt, tucked into my jeans with a belt. I walk in a confident manner(shoulder's back, chest out slightly) and I can look into the women eyes sometimes other times I just look away as we are passing. I post a picture on here, But I am groomed I have short hair that is spiked up, and I have a nice scented cologne which I don't over do it but make just right.

My questions are, where is the best place to start? I don't want to become that jerk, since I know being a jerk isn't what women want, its what the jerk showed, confident ect is what they get. I also don't say sorry, since people have told me that shows weakness. My approaching I don't look for IOI's which I read is like a smile, a touch, a double look ect. How do I look for thoses? I don't see much here and there once in awhile but who do I get a women to do that?

Thanks for all the help it is much appreciated, and yes these are a lot of questions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sodbuster

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Find the link to DJ bible and read it. THEN you'll be able to ask questions intelligently. No disrespect meant, but the guys who know the most get tired of answering the same questions every month.
 

horaholic

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On the bottom of the page, or the link in my signature takes you to it. Start with the fifteen lessons, from Pook. It should be mandatory to read it before posting. And no, there are no magic lines either. its all about #1 make yourself a more attractive person, including being a REAL man who doesnt let chicks walk all over him. #2 growing a pair and approaching strange women.
 

Alextheegreat

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Ah, Thank you guys this has been a great help, I just finished week 1 and man I gotta say I haven't felt this good, well in like forever. I appreciate you two taking the time to post I have a million questions ha, but it will wait till I have completed my training.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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