"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok, here's my situation. I'm 27, getting a divorce from the woman I was with for the last 6 years. I spent the last 6 months couped up in my basement playing video games and drinking alot. I am getting over everything and am ready to get back in the game. The problem is, I have no idea where to start. Within the last month I've been trying to pick up women, but it's not working so well.


I tend to think I am a decent looking guy, a bit on the bigger side, but I am working on that (lost 30 pounds in the last 3 months, would like to lose another 30-50). This is the least I've weighed in 7 years. I think dress ok. I usually go out wearing nice jeans and a decent shirt, clean shaven, close haircut (every 4 weeks), keep the unibrow taken care of, and smell nice. I just have no luck. One of my problems is, I get really nervous and can't carry on a conversation for more than a few minutes.

Basically what I need is some advice. I don't do the whole "club" scene. I like go to neighborhood bars. The bars we go to have a nice selection ladies in them, they just don't ever look at me. What can I do to change this. I have alot of confidence in myself except when it comes to talking to women.

I know if they say no, it's not a big deal, but, I still can't do it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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NewMan

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Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
 

Lumpy

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NewMan said:
Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
Link doesn't work. Know anywhere else it may be at?
 

Lumpy

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NewMan said:
Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
Link doesn't work. Know anywhere else it may be at?
 

STR8UP

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Losing that extra 50 will do wonders, both for the looks you will get and the confidence boost which will bring more looks.

I'm a few weeks in and have dropped about 5 lbs. I want to drop another 4 by my birthday in a few weeks, and by the end of the year I want to be pretty well ripped.

I just have to lay off the vodka a bit.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My lawyer advised me to wait until after the divorce before hooking up[no ammunition for her] Unless you don't have anything to lose, you have bigger problems right now than no sex. Figure about a year from the divorce date before you are really ready for more than sex. Women are OK with just sex,you may not be[that will show up in your approach]
 
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