"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok, here's my situation. I'm 27, getting a divorce from the woman I was with for the last 6 years. I spent the last 6 months couped up in my basement playing video games and drinking alot. I am getting over everything and am ready to get back in the game. The problem is, I have no idea where to start. Within the last month I've been trying to pick up women, but it's not working so well.


I tend to think I am a decent looking guy, a bit on the bigger side, but I am working on that (lost 30 pounds in the last 3 months, would like to lose another 30-50). This is the least I've weighed in 7 years. I think dress ok. I usually go out wearing nice jeans and a decent shirt, clean shaven, close haircut (every 4 weeks), keep the unibrow taken care of, and smell nice. I just have no luck. One of my problems is, I get really nervous and can't carry on a conversation for more than a few minutes.

Basically what I need is some advice. I don't do the whole "club" scene. I like go to neighborhood bars. The bars we go to have a nice selection ladies in them, they just don't ever look at me. What can I do to change this. I have alot of confidence in myself except when it comes to talking to women.

I know if they say no, it's not a big deal, but, I still can't do it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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NewMan

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Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
 

Lumpy

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NewMan said:
Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
Link doesn't work. Know anywhere else it may be at?
 

Lumpy

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NewMan said:
Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
Link doesn't work. Know anywhere else it may be at?
 

STR8UP

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Losing that extra 50 will do wonders, both for the looks you will get and the confidence boost which will bring more looks.

I'm a few weeks in and have dropped about 5 lbs. I want to drop another 4 by my birthday in a few weeks, and by the end of the year I want to be pretty well ripped.

I just have to lay off the vodka a bit.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sodbuster

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My lawyer advised me to wait until after the divorce before hooking up[no ammunition for her] Unless you don't have anything to lose, you have bigger problems right now than no sex. Figure about a year from the divorce date before you are really ready for more than sex. Women are OK with just sex,you may not be[that will show up in your approach]
 
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