"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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New To the Single Life

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Ok, here's my situation. I'm 27, getting a divorce from the woman I was with for the last 6 years. I spent the last 6 months couped up in my basement playing video games and drinking alot. I am getting over everything and am ready to get back in the game. The problem is, I have no idea where to start. Within the last month I've been trying to pick up women, but it's not working so well.


I tend to think I am a decent looking guy, a bit on the bigger side, but I am working on that (lost 30 pounds in the last 3 months, would like to lose another 30-50). This is the least I've weighed in 7 years. I think dress ok. I usually go out wearing nice jeans and a decent shirt, clean shaven, close haircut (every 4 weeks), keep the unibrow taken care of, and smell nice. I just have no luck. One of my problems is, I get really nervous and can't carry on a conversation for more than a few minutes.

Basically what I need is some advice. I don't do the whole "club" scene. I like go to neighborhood bars. The bars we go to have a nice selection ladies in them, they just don't ever look at me. What can I do to change this. I have alot of confidence in myself except when it comes to talking to women.

I know if they say no, it's not a big deal, but, I still can't do it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NewMan

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Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
 

Lumpy

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NewMan said:
Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
Link doesn't work. Know anywhere else it may be at?
 

Lumpy

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NewMan said:
Firstly, re the DJ Bible - find the link on the bottom of the page.

after you have done that, come back and start asking questions.
Link doesn't work. Know anywhere else it may be at?
 

STR8UP

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Losing that extra 50 will do wonders, both for the looks you will get and the confidence boost which will bring more looks.

I'm a few weeks in and have dropped about 5 lbs. I want to drop another 4 by my birthday in a few weeks, and by the end of the year I want to be pretty well ripped.

I just have to lay off the vodka a bit.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My lawyer advised me to wait until after the divorce before hooking up[no ammunition for her] Unless you don't have anything to lose, you have bigger problems right now than no sex. Figure about a year from the divorce date before you are really ready for more than sex. Women are OK with just sex,you may not be[that will show up in your approach]
 
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