"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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New Study finds 50% of single people have fallen in love with someone they weren't initially attracted to

Sega Genesis

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you seem to be totally misunderstanding here
And contradicting yourself

how can this “ only a very brief, limited sample of information—often just a few seconds or minutes.<<“

NOT equal “ surface level attraction “ (!)

it exactly means ‘ surface level attraction’

LOL
I think you are perhaps misunderstood CJ.

It refers to making an "accurate judgment about a person or situation" which exceeds simply surface level attraction.

It's about developing the intuitive ability to accurately assess a person for compatibility (or whatever) based on limited info involving both verbal and non-verbals.

It goes deeper than surface level physical attraction.

My understanding of the book anyway, I have read it a few times.

But everyone will have their own take on it
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cheeky_James

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I think you are perhaps misunderstood CJ.

It refers to making an "accurate judgment about a person or situation" which exceeds simply surface level attraction.

It's about developing the intuitive ability to accurately assess a person for compatibility (or whatever) based on limited info involving both verbal and non-verbals.

It goes deeper than surface level physical attraction.

My understanding of the book anyway, I have read it a few times.

But everyone will have their own take on it
mate you are wriggling now,
If it happens in a few seconds it CANT “go deeper “ by definition. Ya spanner :rofl:

Cos it’s just a strong impression ?
And it could be a completely misguided impression also (!)

your argument is circular.

FML
 

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This has happened to me. Well, maybe not "in love" exactly, I'd say maybe "become attracted to" or "develop a crush on" or even "become infatuated with". But yeah, it's happened to me. The next question is does it happen to women, and is it common? I'm sure we've all heard stories about women who initially disliked someone and then became attracted to them, or married them (not necessarily the same thing).
 

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mate you are wriggling now,
If it happens in a few seconds it CANT “go deeper “ by definition.

Cos it’s just a strong impression ?
And it could be a completely misguided impression also (!)

your argument is circular.

FML
Lol you don't get it CJ but don't have time nor the desire to argue with you about it, I am getting ready to head out for the night.

Take what you will from it, if it helps you with your pick-up, great, carry on!

Good luck!
 
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I really don’t get why some of you guys have the term Don Juan next to your name tbh. That’s a misnomer obviously.
I don't like labels, so I don't consider myself a Don Juan (whatever that is). I know I can attract some girls, and there are other girls who aren't going to be attracted to me. That's about as far as I take it, really. The Don Juan beneath our avatars only have to do with how many posts you've made, AFAIK.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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