You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I hate this mentality that some people have where if a Girl makes the smalest slip up they should NEXT her. Seriously, it's like a guy talks about how he's met a great girl and is going out, but she's playing hard to get and some people just shout NEXT. wtf. If you next a girl everytime she does something not according to you, you're going to end up with no one. There's a difference between cutting your losses in a relationship that is going nowhere and just giving up because you couldn't get sex straight away.Energizer said:I'd move on if you I was. The challenge is tempting, but unless you marry her you won't deflower her. Better cut your loses and move on to someone equally as hot and much easier.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
IMHO it's the way it should be if you get a good girl.slickaz said:but to be honest, correct me if im wrong: why do i feel like s3x is not my prime objective with this girl?? is that normal??
Because she got you all bamboozled.slickaz said:but to be honest, correct me if im wrong: why do i feel like s3x is not my prime objective with this girl?? is that normal??
This is just really stupid. Are you going to marry this girl? No? Then what the **** is the purpose of this thread.slickaz said:Thanks Captain J, appreciate the positive here.
Luke Skywalker: Thanks for that, for me it doesnt matter the number of girls ive bedded or how easy it is to wake up to a new chic everyday, its about finding quality over quantity. I like quality and i think this one is.
Real Supreme: yeh you've got me madd as fvk, my focus is ferocious! lol..no further comments from you?
For the rest of ya'll: Ive been blessed with the ability to make something good of my life, ive had success career wise and with my extra curricular activities. Women ive had plenty and i know i can pull a chic into bed with relative ease. I dont even drink nor do i need her drunk to pull. Ive had 3some's aplenty and all that dirty stuff..
BUT! what i REALLY look for is a challenge and i look for quality. if i find a chic, who IS quality, while she looks hot, she appreciates my ethics and never comes in the way of my friends or work. that always has a plus point over the s3x.
yes i know i may sound stupid saying im happy to give up s3x with a girl if she a good catch in every other way. but think about it, i have 2 other girls im seeing that im getting it from, who arent as worthy for my time as this chic.
theyre happy being my 2nd choice, and they both 8's looks wise and 5 character wise. but they give good head..
i can tell the chic in question has a wild side in bed, because she has that s3xual tension when we're makin out, she loves to rip stuff off n get ruff. and thats always a good thing because that means its only time before that breaks her wall from her end..
but to be honest, correct me if im wrong: why do i feel like s3x is not my prime objective with this girl?? is that normal??
i really disagree with this kinda mindset.TheRealSupreme said:This should read
Basically this female sold you a bill of goods. She spit her contract and you accepted it like a young huckle buck facinated by her looks.
WOW.
And why are you on this site again?
To the rest of the fellas here:
Let this guy serve as an example to you to never sell your balls over a females looks. Dont accept her contract make her accept yours or have the balls to walk away.
This guy sold his balls down the drain and everything that a DJ stands for over some looks that are only skin deep. And the personality thing? That lasts as long as they ain't married and then she will change.
She already cowed him and put him down in HER place so why should she even respect him after she gets what she wants.
I guarantee sex will be almost nonexistant and it will suck arse.
Who wants a life like that just cause the girl has good looks????
Who would even sell their future happiness over some looks? Probably a lot of you guys as this dude might do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How does one go about getting 3some's a plenty anyway? It's hard enough to get one.slickaz said:Thanks Captain J, appreciate the positive here.
Luke Skywalker: Thanks for that, for me it doesnt matter the number of girls ive bedded or how easy it is to wake up to a new chic everyday, its about finding quality over quantity. I like quality and i think this one is.
Real Supreme: yeh you've got me madd as fvk, my focus is ferocious! lol..no further comments from you?
For the rest of ya'll: Ive been blessed with the ability to make something good of my life, ive had success career wise and with my extra curricular activities. Women ive had plenty and i know i can pull a chic into bed with relative ease. I dont even drink nor do i need her drunk to pull. Ive had 3some's aplenty and all that dirty stuff..
BUT! what i REALLY look for is a challenge and i look for quality. if i find a chic, who IS quality, while she looks hot, she appreciates my ethics and never comes in the way of my friends or work. that always has a plus point over the s3x.
yes i know i may sound stupid saying im happy to give up s3x with a girl if she a good catch in every other way. but think about it, i have 2 other girls im seeing that im getting it from, who arent as worthy for my time as this chic.
theyre happy being my 2nd choice, and they both 8's looks wise and 5 character wise. but they give good head..
i can tell the chic in question has a wild side in bed, because she has that s3xual tension when we're makin out, she loves to rip stuff off n get ruff. and thats always a good thing because that means its only time before that breaks her wall from her end..
but to be honest, correct me if im wrong: why do i feel like s3x is not my prime objective with this girl?? is that normal??
Sounds like 2 possibilities. Either she's getting the d*ck elsewhere (meaning someone else is actually bringing out the lusty side of your girl) , OR she feels that you will not want her as much AFTER you get her p*ssy. You have two choices:slickaz said:I appreciate what she does because:
1. She cooks for me
2. she cleans for me
3. she buys me expensive stuff
4. she puts in time and effort into looking hot for me, eg shell ask me what im wearing that night so she can wear something to match, and she'll ask me what id like her to wear..ive never had that before..
5. she spends alot of money on me, she's very happy to pay for our date, buy me drinks etc. and its amazing to get that from a HB10.
the con: she doesnt wanna have sex uptil now
BUT!!
here is my solution. that im working towards.
in 15 days, she's booked a 5 day retreat for me and her at an expensive relaxation center. i think given 5 days with massages and oils i should be able to get past her wall..
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.