Just wanted to say hi to all here. I just joined the site after reading some posts for the last couple of days. I have just gotten out of a 2 .5 year relationship and also moved to a new city 1200 miles from home. Trying to figure out the best way for me to meet women between 19-26.. Since I don't know anyone at all.. Should I solo club it, try online or maybe a combo of both? Any Advise and pointers would be greatly appreciated. I also will try to help anyone here with my past experiences if I see anything I know about. Thanks in advance, Phrase
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
If there's a college or university in your town, consider taking a course. Not only will there be some fine wimmen, they'll actually be able to think and *gasp* even carry on a conversation.
I'd avoid clubs, myself. Too much desparation there. But it's worked for others. Depends on your comfort level, I suppose, but it's just not my style.
Tried Yoga classes? They're good places to meet some flexible wimmen. Better than regular fitness places because of the male-female ratio, because more wimmen are into yoga than men, hence better odds.
A lot depends on the area. I see your location is DC (which, I'm assuming, is District of Columbia) and I don't know anything about what's inside the Beltway... but the above are maybe some places to start.
I'd avoid clubs, myself. Too much desparation there. But it's worked for others. Depends on your comfort level, I suppose, but it's just not my style.
Tried Yoga classes? They're good places to meet some flexible wimmen. Better than regular fitness places because of the male-female ratio, because more wimmen are into yoga than men, hence better odds.
A lot depends on the area. I see your location is DC (which, I'm assuming, is District of Columbia) and I don't know anything about what's inside the Beltway... but the above are maybe some places to start.
Earth thanks alot of for the advice, these actually sound like some good ideas. Another thing I was wondering.. Has anyone tried taking entry level dance lessons.. Women to men ratio should be high? I haven't ever done that before but a woman at work mentioned? Any one tried this?
Comote are you talking about the free salsa dances they have like in Glen Burnie or around that area.. Good to know another that lives in DC.. How are the women here.. If you ever have time maybe we could chat some more on topics of this area.. I'm so friggin green here in the North..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mongoose01
Don Juan
yoga is great place to meet women. introductory courses are cheap or free.
Tyrone Biggums
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Join a gym near a major university. Take spinning and/or aerobics classes.
DoubleA
Senior Don Juan
Phrase,
Whatd up? I'm in the DC area. If you need a VA rep to tell what's going here in southside. Give me a shout out.
If you're in DC you can take Salsa lessons at LuLu's in Dc on 18th St & M. It's on Tuesday night and the cost is five bucks.
Man, there are some really cool bars that provide a nice mixture of music and conversation. In Arlington, next weekend is the Shamrock Festival. Look it up and check it out. In a month or so the Spring Bar Crawl hits and tons I mean S$#Tloads of women will be there. It's all about how you want to go with it.
Whatd up? I'm in the DC area. If you need a VA rep to tell what's going here in southside. Give me a shout out.
If you're in DC you can take Salsa lessons at LuLu's in Dc on 18th St & M. It's on Tuesday night and the cost is five bucks.
Man, there are some really cool bars that provide a nice mixture of music and conversation. In Arlington, next weekend is the Shamrock Festival. Look it up and check it out. In a month or so the Spring Bar Crawl hits and tons I mean S$#Tloads of women will be there. It's all about how you want to go with it.