"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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New gf wants to be controlled & hurt...

PxDx

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And their is childhood abandonment & abuse issues involved.

Is this a potential BPD case?

Should i run for my life? lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is she horing?
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Is she horing?
No horing as far as i know. She's widowed & was with the same guy for 15 years.
 
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Based on your title - you need to explain!!! Why are you asking?
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Based on your title - you need to explain!!! Why are you asking?
Just wondering based on her wanting to be controlled & being hurt, plus with the childhood issues. I dunno maybe i'm paranoid! lol.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PxDx said:
Just wondering based on her wanting to be controlled & being hurt, plus with the childhood issues. I dunno maybe i'm paranoid! lol.
What the hell does this mean???
 

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Apparently she's into some seriously kinky stuff? I'd drop her off at a shrink and get outta dodge. Its not that she can't be good for you, its just that you can find better.
 

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RUN FOR THE HILLS, CHANGE YOUR NAME AND IDENTITY, MOVE TO SOUTH AMERICA, AND BECOME A FARMER.

That should give you a decent head start.
 

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Probably not a BPD case.

More like a Stockholm Syndrome case.

Basically that is a normal woman being put in an abusive situation and gradually being worn down to accept it and even begin to imagine small acts of kindness being shown by their abuser. They fall in love with the abuser because of the imagined acts of kindness shown.

Yeah though dude run away.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does she want you to be abusive all the time or just in bed?
 

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kick her in the teeth and fvck her ass. idk, sounded like a good idea to me. yeah dude I wouldnt take this girl very seriously. Shes has issues... obviously.
 

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I would say that it can't *hurt* to give it a try, but be wary of red flags and if she shows ANY red flags at all, to run for the fvcken hills quick.

I dated a girl like this, and believe me. They are a pain in the @$$.

comic_relief
 

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As a man you should be somewhat controlling and dominate. But, what do you exactly mean? She likes to be beaten like a little red headed step child?? :crackup: Or roughed around during sex?
 

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There's an Andrew Dice Clay line,
"I was in bed with this b!tch, and she moans, 'give me 12 inches and hurt me.' So I fvcked her twice and punched her in the face!"

I like crazy chicks. They are good in bed. Sane women bore me. Crazy chick sex is addictive. But I guess you have to be into that sort of thing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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