"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
nervous women?
- Thread starter mister
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My personal recommendations:
Pook - Be a man!
Pook - Kill That Desperation!
(And, for an awesome read)
Weapons of Mass Seduction by Señor Fingers
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
h2o
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if she's that uncomfortable, i'm guessing you probably are pretty nervous too, and she can sense it too.Originally posted by mister
what does it mean when a woman becomes extremely nervous or uncomfortable when you flirt with her or try to hit on her?
the more relaxed/casual/chill/cool you are, the better chance you have of her being relaxed and comfortable around you.
there are times girls will be slightly uncomfortable because they are shy...but if every girl you approach is freaking out...you need to relax yourself a bit.
h2o
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in that case, i would have no idea if it means she has high or low interest.Originally posted by mister
not everygirl I approach freaks out. This is actually the first time this happens to me buddy. I have had girls say no to me before but I have never seen any girl be that uncomfortable around just because I am flirting with her. This is why I am wondering what's going on. Does mean low interest or high interest?
if it doesn't happen often...
don't worry about it then, it's her problem, not yours. i run into this once in a while too...don't think about it too much...she's just shy
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