CostaDeSol
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Neil Strauss' (The Game author) recent interview
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TillTheEndOfTime
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His attitude in that article is basically that "The Game" and his philosophy is about total improvement as a man, not just "picking up" women.
I see people on here obsessed with how to increase their chances with women while seemingly ignoring every other facet of their lives. If your career is crap or nonexistent and you don't have any friends, you should work on getting everything together. The qualities that land you a successful job and friends are the same ones that will help you meet women.
Being successful with women is a lifestyle, not just an act you put on when you enter a club (which is why he is said that some people focus on "negging" & "peacocking").
I see people on here obsessed with how to increase their chances with women while seemingly ignoring every other facet of their lives. If your career is crap or nonexistent and you don't have any friends, you should work on getting everything together. The qualities that land you a successful job and friends are the same ones that will help you meet women.
Being successful with women is a lifestyle, not just an act you put on when you enter a club (which is why he is said that some people focus on "negging" & "peacocking").
flashpoint
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random thought: for a love life you need to love life.
CostaDeSol
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yeah same here. Its like they put getting laid before getting a life. I myself have been guilty of this at times.TillTheEndOfTime said:
CostaDeSol
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flashpoint said:
thats a nice line
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
evan12
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I think the game and mystery is an eye opener to a lot of guys who dont know the nature of woman , you rarely find articles help men to success in their relationship
it could be not that sold but it contain a lot of valid points
it could be not that sold but it contain a lot of valid points
JohnChops
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if you improve yourself, the women will just come. I did this, I find my life more enjoyable. Theres no point to just go out and get women if your life isnt together .... wheres the fun in that ?
Greasy Pig
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The point I take is that women are merely a byproduct of improving your life.
Even if you improve your life and still don't get laid as much as you'd like, you're still living a better life which is of benefit to you.
Even if you improve your life and still don't get laid as much as you'd like, you're still living a better life which is of benefit to you.