CostaDeSol
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Neil Strauss' (The Game author) recent interview
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TillTheEndOfTime
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His attitude in that article is basically that "The Game" and his philosophy is about total improvement as a man, not just "picking up" women.
I see people on here obsessed with how to increase their chances with women while seemingly ignoring every other facet of their lives. If your career is crap or nonexistent and you don't have any friends, you should work on getting everything together. The qualities that land you a successful job and friends are the same ones that will help you meet women.
Being successful with women is a lifestyle, not just an act you put on when you enter a club (which is why he is said that some people focus on "negging" & "peacocking").
I see people on here obsessed with how to increase their chances with women while seemingly ignoring every other facet of their lives. If your career is crap or nonexistent and you don't have any friends, you should work on getting everything together. The qualities that land you a successful job and friends are the same ones that will help you meet women.
Being successful with women is a lifestyle, not just an act you put on when you enter a club (which is why he is said that some people focus on "negging" & "peacocking").
flashpoint
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random thought: for a love life you need to love life.
CostaDeSol
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yeah same here. Its like they put getting laid before getting a life. I myself have been guilty of this at times.TillTheEndOfTime said:
CostaDeSol
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flashpoint said:
thats a nice line
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
evan12
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I think the game and mystery is an eye opener to a lot of guys who dont know the nature of woman , you rarely find articles help men to success in their relationship
it could be not that sold but it contain a lot of valid points
it could be not that sold but it contain a lot of valid points
JohnChops
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if you improve yourself, the women will just come. I did this, I find my life more enjoyable. Theres no point to just go out and get women if your life isnt together .... wheres the fun in that ?
Greasy Pig
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The point I take is that women are merely a byproduct of improving your life.
Even if you improve your life and still don't get laid as much as you'd like, you're still living a better life which is of benefit to you.
Even if you improve your life and still don't get laid as much as you'd like, you're still living a better life which is of benefit to you.