"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Nei Strauss - sellout or not?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Then, when you are in a club with music, lots going on around, what are the chances that a girl will suddenly recall a specific tactic she heard of months ago? She is probably less likely listening intently to what you say than trying to gauge you.
Besides, sarging was always a percentage game. You would still massively improve your hit rate if you used the lines verbatim than if you continued in your AFC ways.
In many ways I believe the lines do two things: hook the girl, but also give the guy who lacks some self believe the confidence to approach so that he has something to say to break the ice. The approach is what most men fail to do.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
^^^^^^^^^ya'll AFC read this again^^^^^^^^
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why hide what we do? Self confident women love us! Just don't waste your time with insecure women who worry that you'll get tired of their BS and drop them; they're right, aren't they? Just leave those women with guys that they can control, AFCs.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
^ the difference between a PUA and a DJ.
I agree with "The daddy" and The_shezzler.
This isn't going to affect what women are attratted to. An if all your game is canned tricks and rehearsed lines.... your even more of a little ***** AFC than when you started.
If you naturally attract girls (A better way to put this is you learnt what attracts women to men and applied it too yourself) then no book is gonna be in your way.
SeldomSeen
Senior Don Juan
A woman can see through and diffuse your lines, and whatever else but she cant take away or negate your confidence, sense of humor, control over your emotions, and self esteem.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Antichrist_Star
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Perfect...
This is absolutely the case. Every woman that I've been in involved with, especially in long term relationships know full well that I'm good with women... hell, whenever I consider writing a post I even run a few things by a few.
The moral of this story... unless the woman is insecure, yeah, you're going to have plenty of issues. But me personally... I only **** with women who know they're **** just as well as I do.
And as of now, in spite of Neil being everywhere on the planet... I've haven't had any issues.
AS
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
How did he (one man) do that?
Jukeboxhero
Senior Don Juan
First off, if this if this is your only hope of meeting women/dating/gettng Gf's/having sex, then perhaps it's time to seriously re-evaluate your game and what it means to be a DJ!
I mean C'mon, Neil Strauss has only been around so long and yet the rest of the world unknowlingly and cluessless managed to populate the planet with billions of people and keep the human race going for the past tens of thousands of years!! How they could do that without "THE GAME" is just amazing..guess that's an awful lotta people "accidently getting lucky".
Secondly, Neil's methods of approaching are pretty innocent and un-intimdating as far as I have heard. So even if women know your using his methods to "approach" and start conversations, I'm sure they still be open to it. Unless of course...EVERYONE is doing it. But then, who knows., you might actually have to adapt and just come up with your own material, which will help you stand out even more. As a matter o fact, I think it would be cool if EVERYONE started using his stuff and girls got sick of it. That would increase my odds!
Anyways, like I said, most humans have had no problem establishing relationships/having sex before the game was written and without knowing about it when it was "underground" so I seriously doubt it's going to effect people afterwards unless you 'The Game' is your religion and you can NEVER stray from using it's material or coming up with your own stuff.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bbestar
Banned
And announces to the world the secrets of the underworkings of the base...
And who are the victims..?
The community, Dj's, PUA's of all types.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Since Neils been hitting the airwaves, I've gone out with two women after they had asked me jokingly if I was a PUA when I was flirting with them. I just told them with a wink that I had taught Neil everything that he knew.
Yeah, his book has really effected my life...
Holy god, you crybabies.
First of all, this guy was commissioned to write a book about the seduction community. He was going to write a book before any of the events transpired. His intention was to tell a story, not blow the lid off the whole scene. So what if he mentions a few of the concepts we should be working by.
You think this will affect your life in any way? You're paranoid and have a victim complex.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bravo!
Anyone got a link?
Also. This only just crossed my mind now.
The general consensus here is that cold approaching is the way to get girls. Strauss met this girl through a social network (Courtney Love) rather then a cold approach. -Basically an irrelevant point. But interesting all the same.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.