"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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heater528

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Ughhhh im pretty pissed at myself i was at the gym tonight when a girl i knew from HS came up to me " i didnt see this girl in 5 years' and goes WOW you really look good, my first instinct was to act ****y funny blah blah and i ended up getting overloaded !!!! I did carry on a decent convo with her but i didnt even ask for the number or a date, now i want to see her again at the gym and ask her, what should i say?? should i still ask or did my window of opportunity close... i didnt even tell her she looked good back. :confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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squirrels

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Happens to us all...I swear maybe a week before V-day, this little blond girl who I'd always looked at but never taken as a serious prospect (thought she had a boyfriend) starts acting all friendly and eventually we practically run into each other. She says "Hi" and I choke. Completely choke.

I dunno if there's still any IL there, but I finally learned an important lesson. Namely: She's JUST A GIRL. :)
 
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hahahahahahahahaha,

Heater, I couldn't resist to respond to your thread..did you notice your title "need to vent" and your name is "Heater" :D :D :D Was this an coincedence? I think it was!

Anyways, go after chick at gym as soon as you see her! Not a huge mistake, at least you now know she may have some interest.

When she told you, "You look good" It would have been a nice comeback for you to say, "you look better". Next time a girl tells you that say that and then get number.
 

il_duce

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
When she told you, "You look good" It would have been a nice comeback for you to say, "you look better". Next time a girl tells you that say that and then get number.
Ok, that's a good one. I usually don't like using other people's lines, but I'm gonna use that one without shame. :cool:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
hahahahahahahahaha,

When she told you, "You look good" It would have been a nice comeback for you to say, "you look better". Next time a girl tells you that say that and then get number.
I would rather say: "You're also not not bad at all.." (and smile)
 

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lol thanks for the advice, didnt see her today. Hopefully i will see her before the weekend then try to set something up next week. Hopefully she says i look good again so i can use that line... it would have been brilliant had i thought of it ! lol
 

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If you see her again, just go up to her and be like you have a great body, tell me, how do you tone up...and use whatever bodypart you want.

Just start b.s.'n with her. Chances are if this girl comes up outta nowhere (especially since you havent seen her in 5 years) you got something now that she wants. A friend of mine said she saw some kid at the gym and he got huge since high school, she said she just went up to him got the number and did whatever.

Girls dig guys that are muscular...Not 287 pounds of muscle...Though it is impressive, its not what they want...Well not the majority at least.
 

So pimp its scary

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover

When she told you, "You look good" It would have been a nice comeback for you to say, "you look better". Next time a girl tells you that say that and then get number.
I'm sorry, but that response would be a lil lame.

A simple 'thank you' would go off alot better.... I like to use 'You're not too bad yourself'
 

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Originally posted by So pimp its scary
I'm sorry, but that response would be a lil lame.

A simple 'thank you' would go off alot better.... I like to use 'You're not too bad yourself'

Bump!!! Never drool over a girl who gives you a compliment!! Just acknowledge it and # close.



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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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