"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need Suggestion: Dealing with attention seeking female

FruitLoops

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Many females would go out only because they like the attention they get from the man they are going out with. They specifically dont have much interest in being with that man, but its the attention he gives her that makes her go out with him. I am sure many of us must have come accross such females.
My question is, how do you deal with such females? Do you just dump them right away or is there any way to escalate such thing to a point where she genuinly becomes interested in the man?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Many females would go out only because they like the attention they get from the man they are going out with. They specifically dont have much interest in being with that man, but its the attention he gives her that makes her go out with him. I am sure many of us must have come accross such females.
My question is, how do you deal with such females? Do you just dump them right away or is there any way to escalate such thing to a point where she genuinly becomes interested in the man?
Sex can change everything...having sex with a woman can flip switches in ways that nothing else can. In fact, numerous studies have shown that giving a woman orgasms activates the same addiction pathways as addictive drugs do.

So the only way would be to have sex and preferably repeatedly within a short period of time so that psychologically those good feelings and bonding hormones start being associated with you.
 

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Rarely matters unless she has a personality disorder like those histrionic women posting selfies every hour on social media.

Escalate, let her comply, have sex.

Quit analysing women too much.
 

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Most replies focus on $€x being on the table. So what if she makes you wait for $€x for some xyz reason; would you still be interested in waiting and try to escalate?
 

Black Widow Void

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Are you mainly talking about on-line dating?
Although I haven't done that route in quite some time, I have a method.
Let me know if it's "OLD" and if so, I'll provide a follow up.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Social Proofing is what this is called, it's how women display their value to the society they inhabit.

Women who don't engage in social proofing, I don't know that they exist, but the level of proof they need is tied to their self esteem
 

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Many females would go out only because they like the attention they get from the man they are going out with. They specifically dont have much interest in being with that man, but its the attention he gives her that makes her go out with him. I am sure many of us must have come accross such females.
My question is, how do you deal with such females? Do you just dump them right away or is there any way to escalate such thing to a point where she genuinly becomes interested in the man?
You need to escalate quickly to find out whether or not she is sexually attracted to you. If not, drop her immediately, because she will only waste your time.
 
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