"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Need Suggestion: Dealing with attention seeking female

FruitLoops

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Many females would go out only because they like the attention they get from the man they are going out with. They specifically dont have much interest in being with that man, but its the attention he gives her that makes her go out with him. I am sure many of us must have come accross such females.
My question is, how do you deal with such females? Do you just dump them right away or is there any way to escalate such thing to a point where she genuinly becomes interested in the man?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Many females would go out only because they like the attention they get from the man they are going out with. They specifically dont have much interest in being with that man, but its the attention he gives her that makes her go out with him. I am sure many of us must have come accross such females.
My question is, how do you deal with such females? Do you just dump them right away or is there any way to escalate such thing to a point where she genuinly becomes interested in the man?
Sex can change everything...having sex with a woman can flip switches in ways that nothing else can. In fact, numerous studies have shown that giving a woman orgasms activates the same addiction pathways as addictive drugs do.

So the only way would be to have sex and preferably repeatedly within a short period of time so that psychologically those good feelings and bonding hormones start being associated with you.
 

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Rarely matters unless she has a personality disorder like those histrionic women posting selfies every hour on social media.

Escalate, let her comply, have sex.

Quit analysing women too much.
 

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Most replies focus on $€x being on the table. So what if she makes you wait for $€x for some xyz reason; would you still be interested in waiting and try to escalate?
 

Black Widow Void

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Are you mainly talking about on-line dating?
Although I haven't done that route in quite some time, I have a method.
Let me know if it's "OLD" and if so, I'll provide a follow up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CAPSLOCK BANDIT

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Social Proofing is what this is called, it's how women display their value to the society they inhabit.

Women who don't engage in social proofing, I don't know that they exist, but the level of proof they need is tied to their self esteem
 

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Many females would go out only because they like the attention they get from the man they are going out with. They specifically dont have much interest in being with that man, but its the attention he gives her that makes her go out with him. I am sure many of us must have come accross such females.
My question is, how do you deal with such females? Do you just dump them right away or is there any way to escalate such thing to a point where she genuinly becomes interested in the man?
You need to escalate quickly to find out whether or not she is sexually attracted to you. If not, drop her immediately, because she will only waste your time.
 
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