cali4nialove
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Anyone who is an expert with women and has experience please PM me. I need some serious advice with a girl and improving my game and life in general.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
this is also very situation.thatfeel said:Just read all of PlayHer Man's posts and you'll know everything you need to know.
Long story short:
1. NEVER pander.
2. Don't waste time with low interest women and flakes
3. Spin plates
4. If a woman is interested she'll make it easy for you.
5. Stop wasting your time texting, only use it to set up meetings.
6. Grabbing a woman's ass will tell you more about her in 60 seconds than hanging out with her for hours will tell you.
Your situation is not unique. Apply the basics and you'll find out for yourself.cali4nialove said:this is also very situation.
I started reading the hs bible two days ago, I'm really working on fixing myself. But some things just kill my motivation and make me feel like ****. I need to talk to someone who can give me good advice on a specific situation.
i don't know man, there are lot's of things wrong with my game at this point. I'm trying to fix myself. I don't want to post a longass sob story for everyone to skip on here, I'd rather talk one on one with someone. I need to clear my mind, I haven't felt this ****ty in a long time.samspade said:All situations around here tend to be the same.
Do you have a scarcity mentality with regards to women? If so that's probably the root of your problem.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This stuff is great for your general attitude but isn't the best way to make inroads when actively trying to get better with women. I think it's something you should learn after you've got good with women, you create the standards once you've been with enough women to realise what you do and don't like for yourself rather than have it dictated to you. You want to live the best life for yourself, so if you're going to go against society, why then just adhere to someone elses set of guidelines, it's stupid. That's why I think some areas should be ignored until much later in development, guys shouldn't be have such rigid standards from day 1.thatfeel said:Just read all of PlayHer Man's posts and you'll know everything you need to know.
Long story short:
1. NEVER pander.
2. Don't waste time with low interest women and flakes
3. Spin plates
4. If a woman is interested she'll make it easy for you.
5. Stop wasting your time texting, only use it to set up meetings.
6. Grabbing a woman's ass will tell you more about her in 60 seconds than hanging out with her for hours will tell you.
7. No Contact saves your diginity, self-esteem, and ego, NOT your relationship.
very good.thatfeel said:Just read all of PlayHer Man's posts and you'll know everything you need to know.
Long story short:
1. NEVER pander.
2. Don't waste time with low interest women and flakes
3. Spin plates
4. If a woman is interested she'll make it easy for you.
5. Stop wasting your time texting, only use it to set up meetings.
6. Grabbing a woman's ass will tell you more about her in 60 seconds than hanging out with her for hours will tell you.
7. No Contact saves your diginity, self-esteem, and ego, NOT your relationship.