Evening guys looking for some advice, here's my story, im 28 and been in a steady relationship for 6 months now she is 28 also, i have been a regular visitor too this site after i got burned before this relationship but now my game is pretty solid which is why my new girl is head over heels for me.anyways the problem i have got is she is looking for something more serious eventually moving in together etc, she is fit, has a good job and so far she doesn't give me any grieve but after going red pill i cant get my head round that she is different this is my problem dont know if i should still be spinning plates as there is there are other girls intrested or should i commit too this girl any advice appreciated
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Need some help
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LiveFreeX
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I think that's only a Canadian thing. Move in but have a really solid Plan B if stuff goes South, like a 6 month trip to Mexico with a pre-arranged place to stay.
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Damn 6 months and she's talking about moving in. Sheesh I've known couples that have been together 2-3 years and moving in/marriage has never come up. You know after the move in another 6 months and she'll be coralling you around to every jewelry store to look at rings. I'm your same age and have no reason to settle down or move in with any gal. Keep frame and tell her you're not ready. You wear the pants, control it and cut it off at the knees.
You say you're in a steady relationship do exclusive or a main plate? If you're exclusive I'd advise against spinning plates. You can still talk to chicks, but the moral high ground would be to not cheat.
You say you're in a steady relationship do exclusive or a main plate? If you're exclusive I'd advise against spinning plates. You can still talk to chicks, but the moral high ground would be to not cheat.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
AllDay85
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Don't move in unless you're getting married within six months. This is a SERIOUS rule.
If she's really girlfriend material, you need to continue spinning plates. You're 28, not 35. Take it easy with that move-in talk. That never works for anyone.
By spinning plates you'll keep it fresh and keep her on her toes. I'm not telling you to bang a bunch of chicks, but cultivate options.