"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Need some help at the movies (when to make a move/how to kiss)
- Thread starter Brighty
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
true romance
Don Juan
Before the movie... Kino: you must hold her hands, touch her on the waist..she must feel comfortable...then you can proceed exploring further in the theater.
touch her thight..
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
but... in this situation i would probably start off by holding her hand. maybe some knee rubbing. and then keep escalating. And there is nothing to escalating other then JUST DOING IT! Then kiss her on the cheek. then the neck. at this point she will probably face you so you can kiss.
but i hate trying to give you a logical plan. it all depends on whats going on. Just man up soldier and take what you want! but most of all have FUN and enjoy her presence.
Maximus Rex
Banned
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
too much aggressive kino will ruin the spontaneity and the mood...
in other words, dont hold her hand during the whole movie... just here and there