"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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need some cologne advice

moneyisking

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just need to buy a cologne, but my knowledge in fragrance and cologne is almost as good as building a bridge, so I feel pretty lucky to have you guys give me a specified answer.

for preference, I like a fresh, inviting scent. I highly appreciate your recommendation. Thank you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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moneyisking

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lol to chop heads off? jk. I prefer to smell good especially in vulnerable times such as at the gym. axe is good, but I feel like cologne is more uppity and sh1t lol
 

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Daily Insanity said:
Cologne? Don't need it, just have game. I use axe :D
Everyone knows what axe smells like and everyone knows that it's the cheapest cologne money can buy. If you want to smell like poverty, go ahead and use it. One definite benefit of Axe is that it repels gold diggers as surely as bug spray repels mosquitos :D
 

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I am going to go ahead and use it, and bang girls whenever I please, as I do now, jealous? Anyway.

Considering this forum your mosquito analogy really makes no sense, since I DO use axe and I DO bang girls and I DO have dates. But being a troll sure runs in your reply's. Go ahead and follow me around puppy :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Axe is for preteens. Cologne is for lounge rats. No one uses it anymore and too much can hurt you (and a lot of people use too much and don't know it). Just use deodorant.
 

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Alright, I'll attempt to answer this question. I use Eternity and have for years. Then again, I've been an AFC for years. I don't think the cologne was the problem though. I'd suggest buying a Calvin Klein product as those tend to last longer. I'll squirt one on my neck and one on the shirt. The shirt will hold the scent all day. Not so for Polo.
 

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I use Royal Copenhagen Musk. It is classic, been around since the 70s. It seems to mix fairly well with my natural smell.
 

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Easy solution. Go here:

http://www.myperfumesamples.com/mps/mens-cologne-samples.html

Get yourself a bunch of samples for a few bucks, just go nuts, and see what you like. Use them, and and see how they work with your body chemistry. Note the ones you like and order the bottle. Easiest way to sample a shıtload of colognes for 10, 20 bucks.

Done.
 

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cool water
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bokanovsky

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I am going to go ahead and use it, and bang girls whenever I please, as I do now, jealous? Anyway.

Considering this forum your mosquito analogy really makes no sense, since I DO use axe and I DO bang girls and I DO have dates. But being a troll sure runs in your reply's. Go ahead and follow me around puppy :D
Lighten up junior. It was a joke.
 

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About 95% of women are too self-centered and stupid to consciously think anything beyond "are you wearing perfume?" However, they unconsciously note that you wear cologne and therefore have some money to burn.

A man wears cologne for the same reason he wears a watch. It's not a necessity anymore -- we don't have to bury the nose in a scented handkerchief to pass through open sewers and mountains of horse droppings. Men accessorize as an introduction. It's like presenting a business card. Wearing cologne says "I mean business."

Usually only married women recognize the different men's fragrances; the single ones never shop for men. There really aren't that many distinctive perfume smells. A few major brands dominate each niche. Citrus scents are the most common both for women's skin lotions and for men's colognes. If you're trying to smell like all the other club rats, definitely do wear citrus. Every man should have a bottle of some citrussy-smelling stuff for when he needs a One Night Stand. OP, I think that's what you mean when you say "a fresh, inviting scent." Citrus is so commonplace that any department store brand is as good as any other.

Otherwise, there's no advantage in smelling like everyone else. I advise going old school. Try out the classic incense or musk scents.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The Gambler

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moneyisking said:
For preference, I like a fresh, inviting scent.
Go to your local store and sample some Nautica or Nautica Blue. It's gold in a bottle, baby.
 

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My go to was Gucci Envy. Now I keep a little in the last bottle of it that I have for special occasions. Women would compliment me all day when I was wearing it, and complain when I was wearing something else.

It's discontinued since 2011 though, but can be bought online... For about 5X what it used to cost!

Now I stick mostly with Armani Code (winter/dressed up scent) or Kenneth Cole Reaction (summer/dressed down scent).

I'm not big on going overboard with Cologne. 1 or 2 sprays.

Different scents smell different on different people's bodies though. I'd suggest doing what VladPatton suggested though, and see which colognes net you the most compliments...

If women aren't complimenting you - - - do a better job of meeting more :)
 

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Daily Insanity said:
Cologne? Don't need it, just have game. I use axe :D

Real talk, that hurricane axe smells good like hella good

I can't seem to find it in stores anymore.
 
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moneyisking said:
just need to buy cologne
No way bro, I won't sell you the city I am living in.
 

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Fatal Jay said:
Real talk, that hurricane axe smells good like hella good

I can't seem to find it in stores anymore.

Don't get the anti-cologne people. Chicks like a guy with good cologne

Axe to me is like spraying yourself with febreeze, and I think it's way too overpowering. To me it was only good back in high school after gym class if you couldn't shower some guys I knew would spray themselves with that
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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