"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So I go to this coffee shop every so often, and theres this one waitress who I like, I really dont know if she likes me, shes looked at me and smiled a few times, i duno im not a mind reader.

So my question is...what is the best way to approach this? I have to make a move or somethin

Thanks lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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penkitten

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you should chat with her to see if she might be interested
 

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im no DJ im pretty outgoing but when it comes to approaching women im as shy as they come...

how would u consider approaching her when shes workin? lol. tough times.
 

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back in the day when i waited tables, guys would just start a conversation.
some asked if i was married or if i had a boyfriend.
others would just start chatting about movies or concerts or random stuff.
once you start some sort of conversation, you will find out things about her.

"did you see xxx movie yet"
"no my boyfriend is taking me friday"
then you know she has one....

or "i have been dying to get tickets for xxx"
her"i want to go to but i just broke up with my boyfriend and haven't found anyone else to go with."

i really think chatting with strangers is easy.
they don't know everything about you, so you can really say anything.
if you don't like how the talk went, you never have to go back to that place . lol its good to practice communication skills.
 

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so i take it ur a woman...say ur back in ur waiting days saying somethin like "ok what can i get you"

and i start ranting about a random movie and asking if youve seen it...thats gotta be strange doesnt it?

bare with me :crackup:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bond21 said:
So I go to this coffee shop every so often, and theres this one waitress who I like, I really dont know if she likes me, shes looked at me and smiled a few times, i duno im not a mind reader.

So my question is...what is the best way to approach this? I have to make a move or somethin

Thanks lol
How about spinning plates instead of obsessing over one random waitress who smiled at you? How about that?
 

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Max Power said:
How about spinning plates instead of obsessing over one random waitress who smiled at you? How about that?
youre very helpful...:kick:
 

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I'm telling you the truth.

The main purpose of this site isn't about how to deal with mini issues, but how to be a real man. If you come in here and post that a waitress at a coffee shop smiled at you and you want advice on what to do, my advice is you have to get a life. (No offence). Guess what? It's their job to smile.

I had 10 waitresses smile at me tonight. I had one of those 10 waitresses unbuttom my shirt to see my nipples and give me Mardi Gras beads. I had another with heavy kino. I had another ask me 100 questions. Should I start 10 separate threads on what to do? They're hired guns. They're going to be more friendly than the aveage chick on the street. My advice is don't read too much into it, but if you must go back and talk to her and bust her balls. If she likes "Friends," say "You do? That show sucks." Etc.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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