"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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bond21

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So I go to this coffee shop every so often, and theres this one waitress who I like, I really dont know if she likes me, shes looked at me and smiled a few times, i duno im not a mind reader.

So my question is...what is the best way to approach this? I have to make a move or somethin

Thanks lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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penkitten

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you should chat with her to see if she might be interested
 

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im no DJ im pretty outgoing but when it comes to approaching women im as shy as they come...

how would u consider approaching her when shes workin? lol. tough times.
 

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back in the day when i waited tables, guys would just start a conversation.
some asked if i was married or if i had a boyfriend.
others would just start chatting about movies or concerts or random stuff.
once you start some sort of conversation, you will find out things about her.

"did you see xxx movie yet"
"no my boyfriend is taking me friday"
then you know she has one....

or "i have been dying to get tickets for xxx"
her"i want to go to but i just broke up with my boyfriend and haven't found anyone else to go with."

i really think chatting with strangers is easy.
they don't know everything about you, so you can really say anything.
if you don't like how the talk went, you never have to go back to that place . lol its good to practice communication skills.
 

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so i take it ur a woman...say ur back in ur waiting days saying somethin like "ok what can i get you"

and i start ranting about a random movie and asking if youve seen it...thats gotta be strange doesnt it?

bare with me :crackup:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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bond21 said:
So I go to this coffee shop every so often, and theres this one waitress who I like, I really dont know if she likes me, shes looked at me and smiled a few times, i duno im not a mind reader.

So my question is...what is the best way to approach this? I have to make a move or somethin

Thanks lol
How about spinning plates instead of obsessing over one random waitress who smiled at you? How about that?
 

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Max Power said:
How about spinning plates instead of obsessing over one random waitress who smiled at you? How about that?
youre very helpful...:kick:
 

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I'm telling you the truth.

The main purpose of this site isn't about how to deal with mini issues, but how to be a real man. If you come in here and post that a waitress at a coffee shop smiled at you and you want advice on what to do, my advice is you have to get a life. (No offence). Guess what? It's their job to smile.

I had 10 waitresses smile at me tonight. I had one of those 10 waitresses unbuttom my shirt to see my nipples and give me Mardi Gras beads. I had another with heavy kino. I had another ask me 100 questions. Should I start 10 separate threads on what to do? They're hired guns. They're going to be more friendly than the aveage chick on the street. My advice is don't read too much into it, but if you must go back and talk to her and bust her balls. If she likes "Friends," say "You do? That show sucks." Etc.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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